Do I have the right to tell my boyfriend not to go to raves?

i dont want to end the relationship i love him very much and he means the world to me

ok let me tell first hand tell him not to something will only make him want to do it more. but firmly tell him yes you are your own person but… then explain to him why you don’t like him to go to them. make sure he knows its his choice but it will upset you if he does go. then he can make the decision and if he’s a good bf he will respect how you feel about it

He use to go but he stopped for me i just feel so selfish because id rather have security and know he is safe and not go to raves than him go to raves, the one thing that makes him the happiest

i hated when all my boyfriend did was smoke pot and made a huge deal about it and he only did it more. then he started hiding it. i finally told him you know your an adult and can make your own choices just don’t do it around me, ask me too or be high around me. then finally he was open about it and respected me.

My boyfriend isnt like that he respects me and my concerns. He had completely stopped and i asked him what was on his mind not long ago and he said he missed going to raves. He should respect me and my concerns but shouldnt i respect him and his desires?

see the differnce with me and you is that you really should be concerned and your a good gf in worrying. if he stopped for you that is amazing. does he seem upset about it? i mean addicts love drugs but should we give them to them cuz they make them happy? no same as him doing drugs at raves and drinking… its not good for him and you as a gf has all rights to care about his well being.

respect his desire to go to raves and dr*gs and can harm himself? its not like your asking him to stop following a dream or to cut his left nut out haha. i mean in my opinion and i could be wrong in him telling you he misses them is him trying to make you feel guilty for asking him to stop so you will let him go again.

You don’t have the right to tell him not to do it but just tell him how u feel about it and why you don’t agree to it and just tell him how he would feel if he would go out and do things he didnt approve of. A relationship is a give and take and both partners should be willing to make sacrifices for each other

You don’t have the right to tell him not to, but you can express your feelings as to why you don’t like it … if he has any respect for you, he’ll try to work on a suitable compromise that makes you both happy.

You shouldn’t tell him NOT to do it, but you should let him know it that it concerns, and upsets you. That you arent comphy with the fact that all those surroundings are there. If he cares, he will take the time to take in your concerns, and hopefully he will stop. Good luck, and i hope this helps! (:

Try and explain why you don’t want him to go if you tell him it will piss him off.

Raves are amazing love! … Just don’t leave drinks unattended… At all!

i dont go to raves my boyfriend does and he gets high every time on purpose

“He use to go but he stopped for me i just feel so selfish because id rather have security and know he is safe and not go to raves than him go to raves, the one thing that makes him the happiest”

No, raves are not what makes him happiest. Do you know how I know? Because he stopped going to them for you. You make him happiest.

And yes, you absolutely have a right to tell him not to go, to demand that he not go. And he has a right to feel sad about it and miss them. Comfort him, and tell him how much it means to you that he has given up something so important to him for you - for both of you really, for your relationship. Ask him what you can do to show your appreciation and to help make up for the sacrifice he has made.

yes. unless hes with you… yes. in a relationship opinions and boundaries need to be in place.. raves usually arnt a great idea in general, but if you go together it would be a great time to hang out and get crazy on each other, rather than him slipping up and all over another or taken advantage of… if he doesnt want to go being the two of you, then create a night like it at home.

You don’t have the right to tell him to stop. Y’all aren’t married or anything. However, you tell him what you are and are not going to put up with. And say this is what will happen if you do. He has a choice. Tell him to make it.

beautifully said :)

beautifully said Hayyim :)

ya ofcourse u do have the fullest right…go do it!:)

you should tell him not to go

yeah it happens alot. atimes you just love to be so accepted that if you get rejected or abandoned you feel you havent accomplished your goal. i guess

if he is going without you yes i think you do.

you dont have a right to do that. he may just “not go” to make you happy.

No, it’s his life.

yes omg yes!! i did the same thing! my boyfriend wanted to go and i said no. if he respects you then he wont go :)