My boyfriend lied to me about his age.. what do I do?

But wouldn’t you think the age difference is too much of a big gap?

If it was me I would think so, but when it comes down to it- it all depends on whether or not you care what his age is or if your comfortable dating someone that old.

You are 19 according to your age on this site and he is 36. That’s a 17 years difference! A little bit too much don’t you think?

If he’s lying about his age, what else could he be lying about? At that age he could have kids and a wife you don’t know about. And think about why he isn’t looking at women his own age! That’s creepy AF if he didn’t tell you his age.

So you fancy men old enough to be your Father and he likes young girls that could be of his own Daughters age….Sounds very creepy,disturbing and sick.Has he asked you to call him Daddy yet?

No way, I do not fancy men old enough to be my father. I thought he was 26. That kind of age difference is fine with me. I agree, it is creepy. Who knows if he has daughters? Or a wife, or exwife? Ugh… I thought about it a lot, and no way am i going to continue to talk to this man.

Yes. Agreed. Thanks.

I really don’t understand the trepidation when two adults are attracted to one another. I have dated someone that much older, who looked much younger and I was very attracted to. She was one of if not the most beautiful person I have ever been around… inside and out, and I only feel enriched by the time shared with her. When I imagine having let the age gap prevent me from getting to know her, and benefit from the warmth of such a person, It makes these comments solely considering the mathematics of it all seem ludicrous and laughable. All these constraints we place on ourselves based on how we feel our actions will be perceived by those around us… only serve to confine us. You should ask yourself how you feel around him, regardless of his age. Age is after all, just a number. The deterioration of telomeres, physically age us all differently and maturity is a subjective trait. Would you prefer someone closer in age who you don’t connect with as well and who will, in ten years, look and feel ten years older than the number on his driver’s license says he is supposed to be?

Honestly though, and this is not meant as a slight in the least… the way you have worded the question in regards to perception, unless he is very immature for his age… he is probably too mature for you. If you cannot see past his age, I can’t see how it will work.