What to do with my boyfriend/ friend?

I personally don’t like to keep any sort of contact what so ever with my exs (no talking, no texting, no email, no nothing). All that does in the long term is cause a lot of drama and unnecessary negative emotions which I frankly don’t have any time for.

I can almost guarantee that if you break up and immediately after try to be ‘just friends’ - initially, it’d feel just fine but as time progresses it’ll transcend into a severe wound.

This happens because all the memories, emotional connections and anchors and behavior patterns involving that person are of a ‘lover/mate’ not a ‘friend’. Your mind will try it’s best to sustain the old stuff, blocking you from reframing the relationship into a ‘friendship’ - and when you try to force it, you encounter more negative emotions.

I would advice that if you really want to be friends in the long run, then absolutely cut away. Keep no contact until you move on. When you move on, then you can return back to the person without having to face any negative emotions or drama, because by then, all you felt for the person a while ago would have faded away for the most part.

–Andrew