What do i do about my boyfriend?

HELP! I feel like i love my boyfriend but i feel like im always chasing him and he doesnt care about me as much as i care about him… the first time he told me he loved me was via text message, when we are on the phone he will whisper it but wont ever say it totally audibly, blows me off for his friends for 3 days at a time and doesnt make time for me until the last second… he wont say “I love you” unless i say it first or unles he thinks im mad. When we are together he is really sweet, but im always paying for everything and Im getting really frustrated… i dont know what to do. Im in my 2nd year of college and he is a senior in highschool… what should i do? should i leave? should i stick it out?? he helps me through alot of home problems and his parents are really sweet… he means well, he just is a complete idiot when it comes to relationships… what should i do????

Answer #1

we have been together for 8 months so far… i feel like i would hate myself if i left because i dont want to give up because i love him truly and deeply, but if its bad for me i know i will have to leave… what should i do??

Answer #2

I went through the same thing, I regret dumping him. I was afraid of hurting him more if I didn’t and well I didn’t trust him without me there…. I Think you should talk to him about how your feeling. Good luck

Answer #3

i dont trust him either… he is always commenting on other girls pictures and hanging out with girls that live near his guy friends houses and he acts like im crazy when i get mad that he wants to hang out with his ex-girlfriend who he always used to tell me was a “huge slut”… thanks for the advice

Answer #4

like, he commented on one of the girls he hangs out with at his friends house’s pictures on myspace talking about how huge her boobs were… its annoying

Answer #5

Wow what a jack wad! That’s how mine was. But its a catch 22. I don’t wanna b his gf again but we were bffs :( but he sucks so whateva! Lol and girl he is no good for you! Don’t trust him. He’s nothin but a player!

Answer #6

lol HE’S IN HIGH SCHOOL, for god’s sake!!!! he’s a teenager!! give me a break!!! i mean.. he’s being comfortable. umm.. maybe a lil too comfortable at some point lol.. though come ON!!! when you don’t talk to him and tell him you don’t like it, he will keep on doing it!! though even if he stops, he will still think it… he’s a “boy” :P it’s natural (i think) . really just talk to him about it :)

Answer #7

Love is give and take. If he is only taking, then it is not true love on both sides. If he treats you like crap now, he will not change. He is young and you are more mature, which may be a problem as well.

Answer #8

Im a little older than you and I just went through the same thing with my ex,, see ex hes not worth it hes yup to something just move on , I know how you feel but there is someone out there who will want to spend time with you and hes not worth it ,, DUMP HIM

Answer #9

uhmm, you shouldnt let some kid take advantage of you like thisss. i dont think its worth ittt. if you try too hard you will make yourself more attached to him and its going to make him pull away more if you get what i mean. maybee give it a break, besides it is his senior year and you should let him enjoiii it? juss keep in touchh. still hangout sometimesss, buhh juss as a fun flinggg? ideekay.,

Answer #10

He sounds like he’s taking advantage. If he’s in highschool, maybe he’s just showing that he can get older girls…urg. Dump him, you’ll find someone better :)

Answer #11

yuhh need to do what’s best for yuhh, or what yuhh think is best 4 yurrself.

Answer #12

well, we have know eachother and been really close and considered dating since he was a sophomore and i was a senior… so i dunnno

Answer #13

well, we have know eachother and been really close and considered dating since he was a sophomore and i was a senior… so i dunnno

Answer #14

I think if you love him you should discuss it with him seriously. But you should also do what you think is best for you:)

Answer #15

i would leave but thats me

Answer #16

i would leave but thats me

Answer #17

Go with what your heart tells you. If you love him and dont think youll find any1 else like him again. Also think about the bad things and gd things that will happen when you leave him see if there are more gd things than there are bad or the opposite. What has he done wrong or what has he done right

Answer #18

Ask him if wants a break up if he says no say well you treat me like im your ex or somin x

Answer #19

Good luck

Answer #20

Honey, I broke up with my boyfriend because both our parents disagreed on the fact that we were dating. It hurt like hell at first, but after a couple of weeks I knew what they had meant. If you know that it’s bad for you, leave him. If he loves you back, he will also know how to let you go.

Answer #21

Honestly, it sounds like you are wasting your time. He may help you through alot of home problems and his parents may be sweet - but that is not a reason to stay with him. Find someone who will be more respectful. Men don’t change.

Answer #22

I was in a situation juss lykk urs at one point… I had to leavee my bf cuz i was movin to a different state ndd i didnt think a lonq distance relationship was dhaa best thinq for us bcuz grlz wuld always try to tlkk to him while im not around. Juss imaginee wen i movee to a state far frm jersey imaginee watt dey wuld do den ndd i wasnt ready to trust him datt much yett so i had to leave him ndd itt was very hard for me i cried ndd atee ice cream ndd otha fattinq foods until he txted meh one day ndd tldd meh he wanted me bacc he culdnt sleep or eat witt out meh bein dere ndd he came to live witt me in Tennessee fatt was dhaa happiest moment of my lyfee btu if yu have to leavee him ndd he really loves yu he wuld fitee for yu to stay witt him……..

Answer #23

Well now i knoo watt yu were sayin bout watt he really act lykk DUMP HIS SRRY ASS

Answer #24

stay with him for at least a month but hold off a bit lett him txt u dont chase him let him chase u

Answer #25

let him go if he loves you he will chase you back,but enough games! be straight up with him and tell him how you feel , he might be afraid to tell you that hes not as comitted as you are in this relationship,this kind of torment would drive any girl crazy xxxx

Answer #26

You are older than him, so hes trying to make YOU the ddesperate one, which obviously isnt that case. Maybe he feels that he may lose you if he was the desperate one. He obviously want YOU to chase after HIM. It should be the other way around. You should definetly approach him, or figure out why he does that, because once you figure out the problem, its half solved! The other half includes finding a solution. Tell him how you feel. Good luck!! :)

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