How can I get help with my body issues?

I didnt mean someone on the internet but… thank you for the help casue this is knida a soft soft for me.

And this is when the teen speak that loses me. A soft soft?

srry i ment spot opps

Ya know….I fully understand why it’s hard to believe your mom, or your friends….it’s not so much that they’re telling you what you want to hear…but sub conciously we know they like us no matter what, so it’s hard to trust their assessment. Can you talk to a counselor at school? I’m thinking that if your self esteem issues are far bigger than what is considered “normal” for girls your age, a school counselor might have some pull in getting you to a outside counselor.

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You had already thought about the counselor. So I didnt introduce anything new to equation. You werent really looking for online counseling. Did you just need to hear that it’s ok to ask for a counselor? Because it really is. You’d be surprised, you may even like it…

Or were you looking for something else too? (sorry, i over analyze)

I guess I did want to see if it was ok to ask for a consuler.

I don;t think that my school consluer really do stuff like that I think they just do stuff like grades and classes but I guess if I asked. ( srry ikinda ramble on)

Yeah. It’s definitely ok. You’re like a dream as far as most teens go (usually brought in kicking and screaming). Just say you’d like someone to talk to. Nothing wrong with that.

Hi, I think self esteem issues come from with in you…something is bothering you about you & no matter who you talk to or how many times they will say you are just perfect you will never see yourself that way…it’s a natural thing…we all go through it in life.

My personal advice here, You need to question what it is that is bothering you in order to deal with it…if you think you arent 100% perfect, well welcome to the world…none of us are…if you got looks then most people say your stuck up…if you are sweet then you arent 100% perfect because you arent a drop dead gorgeous bomb shell…if you are tall then people will all you names for being too tall and some guys will say wow, gorgeous legs….if you are too short then will talk about your behind being way out there….

If we let all these things destroy our self portrait then we will never be happy & always will be cautious of whom we consider as friends & why for that matter…you cant be hovering behind your back rather then staring the truth in the face & dealing with it…it’s a part of accepting thy self as is! The second we feel unacceptable to society is when people lose touch with reality & constantly look to change things about until we entirely lose our self & our self image! Do you honestly want to go there…be one of those girls that keep going under the knife to change something about yourself to make you feel 100% perfect just to satisfy someone else?! I should hope not…. Accept your flaws…accept whom you are for you…not for your parent or your friend or even for us…only accept yourself for you…so you can live a happier & healthier life. Stop listening to other people’s opinion, only your opinion is what matters…and once you can accept you for being that perfect you…you can learn to be content with yourself…and if you feel that loosing an inch or 2 might help your goal then so be it…more power to ya…but if you dont need to do that then stop trying to fight it off!!!

here is an idea…next time you feel like you dont like what you see, identify what it is about yourself \i mean seriously strip in front of the camera & look at whom you really are…no make up no clothes to cover anything up just you & your image….and ask yourself are you in that much of a need to change what you see…perhaps not…perhaps it is just all in your head because society is always trying to change who we are to improve ourselves…I say it’s enough…look at yourself…love yourself & all others will love you right back…and if they dont the f*ck them…you dont need them in your life…you are perfect as is…always remember that!

Now if you still feel the need to get professional counseling then by all means…a support group is another way to learn to accept yourself & then be content with yourself so you can finally love yourself!

Good luck sweetie! Hope this helped!

Yeah, there’s sometimes like a trust counselor. A lot of schools, unfortunately, dont have them. You might want to find out though. (It might be called something different in your school). It’s what I spent last year doing. They’re therapists who wont do long term therapy, but it’s a place to start.

WOW!!!!! this help and it was very long lolz but it still helped

sorry it was long, just had to make you see my point & only way to do that is to tell it like it is! just glad it helped!

You just have to tell yourself, what don’t I like about my body and what I do like about my body? What can I change and what can i not change? It’s normal for people to have body issues,but it’s not normal when the take drastic measures. Learn how to love your body and walk with your head held high. You only have one life to live and if you go your whole life always looking at your body and finding all your flaws,you’ll see how much time you have been wasting. like the saying by Mark Twain”A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”