Why does my body get ice cold when I get angry?

My other question is … is this real anger? Not like “o, I’m so upset” what I mean is this really anger and could it get worse?

Another is that when I get this way my heart rate decreases and the tops of my feet start to sweat, and my body starts to get cold…. if I find something that REALLY upsets me then I start to shiver.

This is a natural reaction to getting angry. Not all people shake or feel cold, but I do know a few people this happens to. It happens to me, for one. It happens even more so because you care about your boyfriend – we get to a higher level of anger when something happens with or to a significant other. Why it happens? You’re extremely angry. Your heart is pumping like crazy, you’re breathing shallow because you’re angry.. This puts a huge strain on the body.

When it comes to your boyfriend, I can completely understand you wanting to help him. That said, though, staying with someone who’s NOT being honest with you just so that you can help him isn’t fair to you or him. Yes, you love him. BUT, this does not mean that you should sit there and take it while he does things like that to you. At some point you have to realize that BOTH of you need to be invested in the relationship. If he isn’t, then you really need to let him go and do better for yourself. You should not have to put your own feelings aside..

I totally agree, and i would have been gone this last episode. he is making the effort and is searching for a psychologist in the area, hes down the 3 choices. I hope this will help him, but if it doesn’t then you’re right i cant put my body through any more of this.i

I want to say thank you, this has been the best advise I have ever gotten. Thank you so much, its nice to know I’m not alone.

This sounds to me like the symptoms of a Panic Attack. I suggest that you try something before labelling yourself with a mental disorder. Protect yourself from arguments with people/ boy friend and situations of anger or frustration. See if you can avoid these feelings and take it from there.. if they persist, see a doctor.
This used to happen to me - I was at work when it bothered me the most also. I’ve had high stress, high responsibility jobs most of my life and it seems like I’ve just developed a much thicker skin and far greater self control over the years. I have also taken Anger Management classes (out of interest, not a court order), Self Discipline and Emotional Control.

I suggest you read up on any of the things I noted above. Also, a lot of keeping an even keel is keeping your body relaxed and breathing normally. I used to practice that when I was feeling myself getting upset or feeling like I was starting to slip - I’d focus on taking slow, deep breaths (very quietly, no one needs to know you are doing this) and practice relaxing my entire body. When you get upset you tend to breath more shallowly and your muscles bunch up, this feeds your overall tension and other bad body feelings and you get into a physical cycle of being tense and upset that spirals out of control til you scream or cry, whichever… Good luck!