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How not right is it for someone to blow off their own family member's funeral but go to a funeral for someone they've only meet a few times?

This is just making me fume. I know someone, can’t call a friend anymore because they’ve changed so much they’re like a stranger now, how hates funerals and anything sad like that. They avoid it as much as they can. They even blew off their own cousin’s funeral (note, it’s a close knit family). But now they’ve blown off plans they’ve had to go to the funeral of someone that they met only once or twice and have even admitted it’s someone that they really never knew. Is it just me or is that screwed up as heck? Isn’t that like putting someone else’s family in front of your own? It’s seems very wrong and kind of disrespectful too. If I was his family, I would be very upset that he couldn’t make time for his own family but did for someone else’s. Does this seem wrong to anyone else?

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Answer #1

Maybe he couldn’t handle the cousins funeral.

Answer #2

I’m guessing he went to the other person’s funeral because of the fact that he didn’t know the guy to well so it wouldn’t be such a sad experience. The cousin’s funeral may be too sad for him. I think you should talk to him though because it is definitely disrespectful that he didn’t go to your cousin’s funeral. Express how you and your family feel about his actions. There is probably some reasoning behind it.

Answer #3

It was their cousin’s funeral that they blew off for friends. Then this person walked away from a close friend when they had a relative who got sick and passed. But then this weekend blew off friends and prior plans with them to go to a funeral of another person’s relative. Just wanted to clear that up since you sounded a bit confused.

Answer #4

I mean, they didn’t just leave town for the funeral, they went for the entire weekend.

Answer #5

Okay, my answer is still the same. You need to confront him and tell him how you feel about the situation.

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