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okay so I wass bestfriends with this girlll..and like we wre really really close. we did everything togetherr…were actually neighborss. shes a year older than mee..last yeear I was in the middle school and she was in her first year of highschool. we stayed really close..but this year when I came up to the highschool..we completely drifted because of her boyfriend and wer still talked but we just werent as close so I always held that grudge against her anyways I got into a relationship this year too and, like I said me and her still talked.. just werent bestfriends..well she told my boyfriend I had sex with this other guy when I never even kissed the guy and so I got really mad at her and I flippeeeddd out and caled her a whole buncha names that I shouldnt have…to make a long story short..I miss her alott..I kinda wanna be frirends with her again but its hard because my family doesnt like her at all anymoreee because they know everythingg…I apologized to her even though she should be too…but she wont answer me…ever…what shoould I do?!!? PLEASE HELP!

Answer #1

um, hun first of all you shouldn’t be the one apologizing. I understand you miss your best friend and wish things could go back to the way they were. but honesly, if my best friend did that to me I could not see myself forgiving her. and if you really think about it, was she ever really your best friend? you two obviously have some big trust issues and if she does decide to work things out, I would definitely consider talking to her about trust. trust is one of the most important things you need to maintain a good relationship with a friend, boyfriend, best friend. trust is probably one of the most common reasons why a relationship falls apart. you think you can trust a person until they turn around and stab you in the back. and if they do that, who is to say they’ll never do that again? you cant just believe someone when they say ‘I said im sorry, so I am.’ you need to feel it. she’ll make you think she’s sorry, and then the same thing will happen again. so really think about it…

and if she’s completely ignoring you then she really isn’t worth your time and tears. she should be the one crawling back to you. she deserved to hear the things you said to her. I know you feel guilty but there is something friends do. and thats forgive and forget. give her a little time and space, and maybe eventually she’ll open up. it could take 2 days, 2 weeks, 2 months, maybe even a year. but you need to give her time to think things out and maybe then she’ll realize she deserved to hear what you said and decide to forgive you. if not, then she honestly doesn’t care and you deserve better.

and while your waiting, try doing some other stuff you enjoyed doing. get your mind off of things by having fun and not worrying much about your problems. not only will this make you feel much better, but if she sees that you’re happy and having fun.. she’ll miss the way it used to be and want you as her best friend again.

hope I helped.

Answer #2

she doesn’t deserve your friendship if she said that to your boyfriend

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