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I’m 16 talking to an older guy, and he always wants to do sexual things, but im not ready. I will only if I really care about the guy. But I realllyyy like him. Hes a horny kid, I mean he lost his virginity at 13. But he said hes okay with it and respects it, and thinks its attractive that I respect myself. But I dont want him to leave me for a girl that will do things for him…

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Answer #1

hes a horny kid, I mean he lost his virginity at 13. >Its obvious hes only interested in sex, NOT YOU! Its about him…what HE want.s…not about you.

but I dont want him to leave me for a girl that will do things for him… >You should NEVER EVER do anything sexual with someone because your afraid of losing them! What is that saying about the kind of person you are? DESPERATE!! Someone with no confidence, and has low self esteem!

You shouldnt start a relationship this way. You cant run and give people everything they want just to make them happy. You are 16, you are old enough to know that what he is doing is wrong. it is his doing and NOT yours. He isnt a decent guy who respects you and doesnt really care for you. His words speak for themselves. Be strong. Find a guy who likes you for you!

Answer #2

You should never feel pressured to do things your not ready for…I was in the same exact situation long ago…they start manipulating you so you’d do things but dont do it unless your sure…one time this guy said if we didnt have sex he’d leave and get another girl … I liked him a lot so my decision wasnt easy…yet I kicked him to the curb…yes it sucked at first but you’ll find someone new whose right for you… dont let him use you!

hope I helped

Answer #3

As long as he respects you then thats fine. Theres always a concern about moral and legal issues. If the guy starts to pressure you then hes not the guy for you. Dont feel pressured or anything. Do what is right for you. Please yourself and not him. What you are doing right now is good. It shows you have dignity and self respect. Good on you!

Answer #4

if he really cares for you then it is good that he respects you and he wont go anywhere if he cares for u. if you want a guy that doesn’t care for you then that is just well silly because it is just like having a guy push you around and do what he wants and he doesnt even care for u. are you even going out with him all you said was that you are talking to him and how much older is he. if he is 18 its illegal to have sex with a minor lol ^ ^. trust me you want a guy who cares for you and if he pressures you or leaves you then he is not worth it you deserve better then him. its your body you do what you want with it not what he wants … hope I helped and fun mail me for further advice ~kaitlyn~

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