My grandmother had a baby at 14 my mom had one at 14 now I'm 13 and I'm thinking I want one to. My dad would kick my az if he found out... Will I regrete having on? I mean I'm going to wait till I get out of college and get my job started be4 I have 1 but is it hard to take care of them?
No, it's really hard to break a family habit like that - it almost begins to feel normal. But you sound like you know it isn't really normal, or a good idea, to have a baby too young. People cope if they have to, but your life will be much better if you enjoy your life as a teenager and young adult before finding the right man and settling down.
It's a good idea to talk to your mum and grandmother. Find out from them what they wished they could have done, but gave up to look after their children. Think what you will be able to do, that they missed out on! Education, friends, nightlife, freedom, choice... all of those things can be yours if you dare to break the family's habit.
Sweety, let me tell you something and this is from the heart. PLEASE WAIT. I had my first child at 19 with a man I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with and when I had him I was happy because I had my family, but eight years later and I broke up with my kids father last year. I have four all together now, I am going to be 26. There are a lot of things I wish I could be doing right now that I can't because I have kids. I get no sleep because during the day I watch them and at night I work, My twenty first birthday I was hoping would be fun and I spent it taking care of a child. Unless you have parents who would support you if you did please don't do it.
Life is more complex than it was in your mother and grandmother's eras, and it is becoming even more so. You would be serving yourself (and your future children) much better by spending the next few years gaining as much education and knowledge as you can. The whole rest of your life, as far as being successful and happy, is dependent on what you do for the next few years.
Yeah, just because it happened before doesn't mean that's what you should do with your life. Did your mother/grandmother say that it's a good time to have a child or that you shouldn't wait? I think they would prefer for you to get a stable life first, no matter what happened to them.
Don't pay any attention to those who say it is a stupid question. They probably say it's stupid because they are unable to supply an answer. Anyone who implies that someone is stupid for asking a question is demonstrating their ignorance.
You should ask your mother and grandmother about the troubles they had. Maybe you could get some babysitting jobs this summer to get a taste of what 24 hour life with an infant/child is like.
I thought you wanted to an actress,a baby will only slow you dawn,no matter what you want to be,dont do it,a baby is a beautiful thing dont ruin that expierence at a young age..
My dear you are still young. Please tkae the time to enjoy your teenage years. You will still have lots of time after high school. I have 3 children and never regret waiting.
BABYs ARE kUtE BUt ANNOYiNg. you must be really stupid to have ask that question!
just tell your dad it runs in the family
