Any ideas on how I can get over myself and be a focused person?

My ex- was one of the smartest people I ever met. She started college with no idea what she wanted to do. She picked psychiatry but dropped out after the first few classes didn’t do much for her. She did manage to get a pretty good state job that didn’t pay great but had really good benefits, it was the best job she ever had but she didn’t get along with her coworkers so she quit. Then working at a department store she got interested in jewelry, by now I had a good job myself so I paid for her to go to gemology school, I paid for the whole thing but after she took the first few classes she said she was burned out and took a break which ended up lasting years then went back and took one more class before giving up. Now that I had a degree and a career and she was working unskilled dead-end jobs that she quit every few months I was making more money in a month than she did in a year so she decided that she wanted to be a housewife except she didn’t want to cook much, clean or have kids (too noisy and too much work).

I stayed with her out of pity for years because she was one of the saddest of souls, someone who has never found her wings.

You have to find whatever fires you up. Joseph Campbell said “follow your bliss.” He meant that you should do whatever makes you happy with no consideration of hardships or practicality. When we do what we love we are naturally good at it and opportunities almost magically arise. If you try to live someone else’s dream or try to do something because it is respectable or practical than you will never be happy. You may be able to force yourself to live a life that doesn’t stimulate you but you will find yourself years from now filled with regret.

Look within yourself for what you really want to do with your life and persue it with all your heart and energy. It won’t be easy and you will have setbacks but if it is what you want don’t give up easily.

There’s nothing wrong with you. I am like that too. I’ll set myself a goal but sometimes I just can’t come through with it. You know what I do? I make myself a list of of goals I want to achieve and then I put up some sort of inspiration for myself, that’ll keep me going. I hope this helped you :)

Dont be upset. You will be alright. You just tell your problem to your parents or try to consult with a counselor .

Try going for a jog, or another activity that you enjoy, it will help to clear your mind when you struggle to focus. Writing down thoughts and feelings can also work. Try to get to know yourself, like find out, what you enjoy and what makes you happy, and analyze it.