Angry Mother

he just tells me she’ll be out of his life soon… but its really hard on me to deal with all this. He pretty much hates his mom.

wow what does your boyfriend say..I think you shud just respect her wishes and life goes on you know aslong as your boyfriend isnt feeding into that crap then who cares…goodluck

obviously she has the problem, not you. just totally ignore her I guess. if you try to fix it or make the situation better it will just give her more reasons to accuse you of god knows what.

I have to agree with ichibanarcky, I’ve been with my husband almost ten years and my mil still refers to his exwife as her daughter in law and I am her son’s wife, that’s it, even though we have kids together and everything. It is hard to deal with but it’s better to respect her wishes and not press the issue. Wouldn’t you rather be separated from her than deal with her everyday talking behind your back? You know what kind of person you are and you’re probably not going to change her mind, so just focus your energy elsewhere. Good Luck!

You know what? I’ve been with my hubby for over 5 years, and my MIL still hates me.

You can’t change her perspective of you - she’s decided to dislike you and that she will until she dies. All you can do is make the best of your relationship with your boyfriend because that’s what’s really important here. As for the rest of the family, they’ll make their own judgments without her help.

Ignore her taunts/false accusations. Don’t retaliate in any way as it will just add fuel to the fire. She could be one of those parents who thinks no-one is ever good enough for their precious son/daughter so they try to bring you down with her lies. It is her problem for being this way, you haven’t done anything (so you say). You are dating your boyfriend, not her. Just be strong and don’t let it get to you. Be nice to her, stay positive, and focus on having the best relationship you can. When she realises she isn’t getting to you she may well stop it.