Am I feeling love or wanting security?

I was engaged December of 2001 and I cheated on him while he was in the Navy October 2002. The reason I cheated was because I wanted HIM to break up with ME so that he wouldn’t be as hurt. It made sense at the time…Well I married the guy I cheated on him with and got pregnant in December 2002. I’d known the guy since I was 16 (I’m 24 now) and thought he was the one I’d always wanted and plus he was HERE and not in Florida. We had a big fight in January 2003 and I left him to live with my grandparents. I found out we weren’t legally married as he hadn’t divorced his last wife. I got on the phone to my ex-fiancee and after the total truth (and 3 months of begging) we got back together and are engaged again due to marry in October. He has agreed to adopt my little girl who was just born July 31st and her “sperm donor” doesn’t believe she is his which works for me as I don’t want him involved anyway. Lately my feelings for him have been “questionable” as in I’m not sure if I’m in love with him or just want the security the Navy will give me and my child after being run through hell with my last ex. At times I love him and sometimes he makes me so frustrated and angry I wonder why I wanted him back in the first place. What do you think? I know this decision is mine to make but I just need an outsider’s opinion. Thanks…

Answer #1

You're nasty - grow up and figure out how to have a real relationship based on mutual trust and respect. If you keep living your life as a slutty user, you'll end up getting used up yourself.

Answer #2

Yes, it is about security or some get it comfrused with being pratical. You begged a man for 3 months to come back to you, who knows what you promised your do or even be able to measure up to all that begging you did. When a man loves you and want to be with you it should be on his own dicission coming from the heart and soul. A soul mate is like a gem when he cries you cry. When he is in pain you feel it to. The connection is strong, bold, loyalty, spritrality, emotional, affectinate, a sense of completeness. Your not going to be happy and neither is he if you not ready mature to handle such a grown up life.

Answer #3

lonely

Answer #4

ABSENCE!!!!!!!! or maybe???? NO!!!!!!! wait, it must be!!!,,,,,, BUT IT CAN’T BE!!!

ABSTINENECE!!!

One time my friend bob got pregnant!!!!!!!, i mean,… he…./ GOT PREGNANT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LIES

Answer #5

both! You feel secure with whoever you love..

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