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Afraid I'm too tight for him

About 10 years ago I was brutally raped by a man I worked for and I haven’t had sex since. After seeing a councelor for a while, I’m finally at a point where I’m dating again. Recently, I’ve started seeing someone I really like and know we will be getting intimate very soon. The problem is I’m scared that things down there have tightened up so much since I haven’t been with someone in so long and I’m afraid he won’t fit or it will be too tight for him and incredibly painful for me. I’ve used a fairly large vibrator and it’s even a little painful at times. What can I do? I’m afraid if I tell him why, not only will it kill the mood, but he may not want to be with me because of my “issues.” Any advice is welcomed!

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I’ve done a lot of research lately and know that there are vaginal dilators for people who have abnormally small vaginas (which I think mine is average, just really tight at the opening again from not having sex) or a condition called vaginismus when the muscles of the vagina tighten up. Maybe I will try that to stretch it a little. I’ve been told guys really like a tight fit, but right now I feel almost like a virgin again. Is that something that would freak a guy out? To basically be popping my cherry again in my 30s?

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