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18 and want to get pregnant

Is this ok? I’ve been having relations with the guy for about 7 months now…he already has a son and is not ready for another. But I’ve seen him with his son and I know that he’s an amazing father. I want to be a mom so badly. I’m just about to finish highschool and I’m taking a year off before I start university so I would have time to get myself and the baby settled before I start back to school. My family would also help a lot financially, as would the child’s father. I just went off the pill, but I haven’t told him…my biggest fear is that I’m infertile (I have a few reasons for this), and I want to be a younger mother so that I have all the energy necessary to take care of my child and participate in any activity with them that I can. I know the father would stick with me if I did get pregnant…but am I being a really bad person or am I at all justified in doing this?

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Answer #1

Would you want your choices to be stripped away like this? He may stick around for his child, but I doubt he’d ever trust you again. That relationship isnt going anywhere. And how selfish are you being. You’re thinking about yourself. What about him? What about this child? You’re only 18. You can be a young mother at 21 too. Except with a college education you’d be more likely to get a good job, if this guy is going to stick around, he’ll still be around then, and if he’s not you probably dont want to be having a child with him. Oh, and if you seriously are asking this question, there is no way you’re ready to be a mother.

Answer #2

You are an extremely bad person if you deceive this man into thinking you are on the pill when you are not. He will be very angry with you if you get pregnant because you lied to him. Also you say he is not ready for another child - why are you being so selfish? Whos to say he wont leave you and the baby alone to fend for yourselves? You can’t mess with people’s emotions like that and assume it will be okay just because that is what YOU want. There are other people involved here too.

Answer #3

I understand.But you have to think…what would you want if you were him?

Answer #4

you make me sick

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