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15... not sure if I'm ready for a ring on my finger

Yes this is pretty much the same question as about an hour ago but I wanted to give you guys more information. We have known each other since August of 2007. He asked me out on December 6, 2008 and starting on that day we had been talking every day whether on the phone, text, or IM. He lives 4 hours away and doesn’t come down to the city that often. He has lied to me several times, but although to me nothing necessarily justifies lies, I understand why he lied and I forgave him for it. We broke up once for like 3 hours but other than that we have been together. It’s been rough because he has been in and out of the hospital and so on and so forth. Only a week after he officially asked me out we started talking about marriage and kids and planning our lives together, and I never thought anything of it. I thought it was harmless. Well now he bought an engagement ring that is worth over $30,000 and he said he wants to propose sometime after his prom.

If you were in my situation, what would you do???

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Answer #1

I know for a fact he bought the ring. at first I didnt believe it at all.. till he showed me the ring and receipt and all of that

Answer #2

yea well I wudnt believe that because hes only 17 and can spend 30,ooo on a ring I dont believe it at all

Answer #3

how can a 17 year old afford a $30,000 ring??

Answer #4

he is 17.. I feel uncomfortable talking to my mom about it being she doesn’t even know that I am dating him.

Answer #5

actually you CAN get married at 15, but your parents have to sign iff on it and all this legal stuff.

Answer #6

ask yourself. do you really want to have this responsibility, do you want to start wasting your money at such a young age? do you have enough money to pay for a wedding or kids?

Answer #7

You cant legally get married at 15 so you have 3 years to think about it.

Youve only been going out for a short period of time. In order to get married you have to know the person longer than that know there flaws & such. Is he honest? Does he have a future to support you? If your parents dont even know your dating do you think they will aprove you getting married?

Theres so many things you have to go over. Do you know how much a wedding cost? Do you or him have that type of money? Are you going to finish school? Do you have a back up plan incase something goes wrong durring the marriage? What about kids?Are you ready to have kids?

How do you expect your life to change once your married? Why are you getting married? are you in love? are you doing this because it feels right or is it because you have an internal time line? Believe or not people get married just because they think they wont find someone in the future. Have you discussed our family health histories?

If he doesn’t change what your getting now is exactly what he’s going to be and nothing better, will you still be content with him?

These are all questions you have to ask yourself I doubt 2 or 3 months is enough time to consider all this.

Your 15 a teen dont focus on this if he loves you he will wait (:

-Hope I helped :D

Answer #8

if I were you I would get the hell out of town. he sounds like those crazy possessive and obsessive boyfriends you hear about on tv that end up killing their girlfriends when they try to break up.

I’m not trying to scare you but get out while you still can lol, seriously he sounds a bit nuts.

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