I am 14 ( despite what my profile says) & I really want a boyfriend already...

Your beautiful inside and out. The thing to remember is that there is someone out there for you. It may take a couple wrong boys to find him but he is out there. I have found that if you make the boy a best friend before a boyfriend it lasts so much longer and its way less awkward. Right now my boyfriend is my best friend and we have got through the worst of fights. In the end dating is about finding the one. Im 16 and I started dating at 14. I am going to tell you that break ups hurt. A lot. Just for now try to make best friends with boys and after a year or so try to take it to the next step with one of them, it will save you from a lot of heart ache.

I know where you’re coming from; I felt the same way when I was your age. I find it pretty sick that guys are telling you that they don’t want to date you because you’re black, though. I mean, that’s ridiculous, and you’re definitely not ugly. Be confident and happy with who you are because that’s part of what makes a person attractive. If you can love who you are and accept yourself for the good & the bad, it’s going to show. I personally feel a lot more confident when I’m wearing new clothes, or after I get my hair dyed, so you could totally do something to enhance your appearance if that will give you more confidence, but that’s up to you. I know it’s cliche, but the right guy will come when you least expect it.

A lot of people feel the same at this age, trust me. I am in no way trying to minimize your feelings but am just trying to say that this is a complicated, rather awkward age. Your body is doing funny things, soceity is telling you to do certain things, be a certain way, hormones are whack. Here’s what you don’t know though, even though you have not been made aware of it, I’m sure some boy has or has had feelings for you just never expressed them. You’d truly be surprised how shy boys can be. In addition, you will find someone who like like you just the way you are. Trust me on this one, just… probably not at this age. Boys, and females, at this age are just so immature! And really, I know you said not to say this, but most are not ready for real relationships just yet. Regardless, be yourself, and be confident about it. Confidence is attractive, confidence is sexy. So truly, wait a little longer, you will find someone. You are truly pretty and I know someone will come along. I also want to add though, as a little side note, getting a boyfriend just for the sake of having a boyfriend is no good. That bit of desperation to just have a boyfriend often lowers our standards for a partner and we often end up with someone not worth our time. So by saying this, wait, and the right boy will come, maybe not right away, maybe not at this age, but he will.

thank you for saying what i was trying to say….

Wait. Make friends not love. Your life is probably getting complicated enough already.