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About eight months ago, we ran through some big problems in our relationship (not going to say what), ever since then I have been paranoid and driving myself insane. I would think myself into a panic, I’d randomly have times where I begin imagining different situations, then feel myself panicking, going cold, getting knots in my stomach and then cramping, and having trouble breathing. I get suspicious over nothing which then drives me into panic. Since then, I’ve also begun to cry much easier. I realize people will say it has to do with trust as well, and to put it bluntly, I don’t trust him any longer in that way, but it is something we have been working on. He has been working on improving our relationship and trying to better it already and I appreciate it, it should help but it seems it doesn’t. Sometimes I think I am getting better and overcoming those feelings I mentioned, but then it always gets bad again as soon as I feel better. It’s beginning to really affect me with the coming of exams, and the load of assignments.

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Answer #1

well my dear, it sounds ike you have been through some sort of trauma that caused you to have trust issues especially in your relationship. If in any shape, form or way you have experienced some sort of betrayal in a past relationship, romantic one or with a family member the chances are you will continue to have doubts which can be the reason for this feeling you have now.

What I would advise you to do is look with in yourself, try to pin point if that is true, where in your life did it take place & whom the person was that treated you this way. Once you have pin pointed it, you can deal with the healing process. I am afraid that until you do this, you will constantly feel this hole that keeps eating at you til you learn to either let it go or deal with it & move on!

I hope you find it in your heart to learn from your past & not allow it to control your present or future, for in your relationships, you will constantly await for something to happen to ruin it…in fear of that same betrayal of trust causing your anxiety to take over while pushing others away! You are too young for couples therapy, but I would advise a workshop on self improvement…we can always change our ways or train our thoughts, we can never change others!

Hope this helps.

Answer #2

Thank you :) I always find your advice rather helpful.

Answer #3

awe, thanks…glad to help. I hope everything works out. ;)

Answer #4

hm.. that’s a tough one. you should probably seek counseling and get over these feelings before it gets any worse. it’s great that you recognize that you have an issue, though. some people go through life and consider their extreme reactions as normal. clearly, these symptoms that you are getting (sounds like paranoia? anxiety perhaps…) isn’t exactly normal and you should consider getting professional help to overcome it.

Answer #5

Thank you :), I have been considering getting help for this because it’s really affecting me but wasn’t sure if I were just over-reacting.

Answer #6

:D Thanks.

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