What is the best thing for your partner to do when your crying and upset (for the guys)?

ugh, cant type with phone.

Im not a guy, but Im that way, I rarely ever cry, but when I do I dont like anyone to see it, I want to be left alone, but if I cant help crying n front of someone and they see it, i’m not really sure, myself what I want them to do. The last time I cried it was a year ago in front of my mother, I couldnt help it, I got in a fight with my dad and he dropped me off there and I brought all my stuff, everything, I was going to live there. She asked me a question, I forget what it was, but we were standng in her kitchen and I answered, I dont know, and then tears starting coming down ad I tried hiding them, she just came over and hugged me while rubbing my back and didnt say anything. I didnt mind because she wasnt trying to talk to me and she wasnt looking at me. So, pretty much I dont want to be talked to or looked at, but a long hug is alright because they’re there for you, but arentlooking at you and they dont have to speak. :D

its not just being there and hugging ,in these kind of situations sometimes a guy needs someone to talk to and share his every emotions he is feeling.always remember , a guy would never say something like he is upset and need to talk , you just need to be there at the right time and listen to him and say anything good to him.

I think being there and hugging him is all he really needs, you can worry about what to tell him later, just focus on being there for him and comforting him.

If he feels like talking to you about it… He will but if not, don’t bring it up to much as this might not be comfortable for him. Other then that, there’s not much else you can do. Honestly though, being there for him with a hug is all he might need.

No I dont think personally they want to talk if they are crying though my experience is from a girl experiencing men cry.I think it depends whethet they look you in the eye whether they want a hug or attention.If they look the other way or avoid you i think they want to be left alone and have a hug later with a drink and something nice like a bikky.leave it to them if they want to talk they will about it if you sit nearby if you change the subject and they change it back to whats upsetting them they definetely want to talk.If not they dont.All depends.Most people want a hug when they are grieving so that can be a totally different situation than normal.sorry that he is feeling bad

um, sa a guy, i would like wat the above person said, but itd also be nice if the girl could kinda say its gonna be okay, and thats about it. few things could go a logn way.

Be there for her. As Miguel says, “one doesn’t need to talk.” But most of all understanding is important. I see communication as important or more important then understanding, because communication dissolves any upset. The important thing the guy should remember to do is listen. Listen without judgement and any opinions that might upset her. And guys, women get in touch with their feelings through communication, and that means let the women communicate without any judgement or criticism of the persons problem. She needs to be listened to with understanding of her dilemma. If she asks for advise, don’t give it. Ask her how she would solve it. Ask the question over and over again until she comes to the right answer for her problem. Guide her, but don’t comment on it from your own opinion. People rarely take advise. They always follow their own conclusion of what is right to do.

i think just listening is pretty important i mean if he needs you there you wanna give him your full attention to show you care and ur listening. I mean if hes keeping things bottled in you definitely want to make sure he can feel comfy and let it all out.

i think just listening is pretty important i mean if he needs you there you wanna give him your full attention to show you care and ur listening. I mean if hes keeping things bottled in you definitely want to make sure he can feel comfy and let it all out.