How to tell someone my cousin raped me in the past?

You cant take him to court now that its been over 4yrs. But you can get a restraining order on him and tell his girl about what he’s doing behind her back and your parents.

Really?? I know…Someone who had the same thing happen to her at the age of 8. && its not nice && I know how hard it is to tell someone especialy an adult…&& its not healthy to keep it inside of you. So do whatever you want but I suggest you could tell a few close friends that can keep a secret && get advice off of them.They probs know you better than anyone. Good luck x

Listen somethind almost exactly like this happened to me. I was 8 my cousin was 16, if you are afraid to tell then try rainn.org they have an online hotline it helped me. But if he does try to hurt you call the police. What he did was wrong but no one can force you to tell what happened. I know exactly what you are going through just take baby steps it will be ok.

Hey, you should tell your closest kin and don’t be afraid.This is a thing you must tell someone.I know how you feel because when I was 7 ( too ) , my bro raped molest me. So I picked up my courage and tell my mom.So my mum scold him.But until when I was 10, nothing happen. But one day I woke up and find him kissing me.Now I tell my mom to lock the door ever since.

Sorry…I’m too angry to answer calmly.

Report it…NOW

First of all I want to make sure you are safe. Please go to a safe place if you can. A friend’s house, a relatives house or you may already be safe.

Find an adult you trust. I know it is very intimidating to tell someone about it, but it’s very very very important that you do. I sat my mom down in a corner of a coffee shop - so it was a public place but we had privacy.

None of this is your fault and congratulations for coming out about it. I know it’s very scary. You’re very courageous and brave.

If you don’t stop it - it will continue to happen.(and could happen to someone else.) The rape is more about the control than it is pedophilia or even the sex itself.

I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I was raped and abuse from a young age till about age 19. I have a deposition in 2 days and court in a month. It is a very hard process but know that many many many people will support you.

I also encourage you to seek counseling services.

Here are some resources for you: Hotline of Southern California (562) 596-5548 2400 Beverly Manor Dr, Seal Beach, CA 90740

RIGHT Program http://www.myspace.com/rightprogram (323) 751-4778
1704 W Manchester Ave, Los Angeles, CA 90047

Sexual Tramua Hotlines 24/7: WOAR-(215)985-3333 WEAVE-866.920.2952 (Toll Free) 916.443.3715 (TDD) RAINN- 1.800.656.HOPE Rape Victim Advocates-1-888-293-2080

RAINN also has an online hotline, which is similar to a instant messenger. It will hook you up with a trained counselor to chat with.

If you’re on myspace there are some groups you can join - http://groups.myspace.com/RapeRecovery http://groups.myspace.com/imasurvivor http://www.myspace.com/rightprogram http://groups.myspace.com/stoprape

Here is also a message board with many helpful women who will support you: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/I’ve-bhsexabuse

And of course you can talk to me if you need to. Feel free to funmail me or send me a message on myspace.

hugs Sika

OMG, GIRL YESS, YOU NEED TO TELL SOMEBODY,ANYBODY, IF I WAS IN YOUR AREA I WOULD HELP YOU OUT SO MUCH. CALL A HOTLINE, LOOK IN PHONE BOOK FOR HOTLINES FOR RAPE VICTIMS, TELL YOUR COUNSELOR AT SCHOOL, TELL ANY ADULT THAT YOU TRUST. IT DON’T MATTER IF HE’S YOUR COUSIN, AUNT , UNCLE, FATHER, MOTHER, IT DON’T MATTER WHO IT IS, THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO DO THAT TO ANYONE. GIRL, IM NOT EVEN THE VICTIM BUT I AM MAD AS HELL RIGHT NOW, CAUSE I CAN IMAGINE WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. IF HES DOING IT TO YOU, TRUST ME, HE’S PROBABLY going to DO IT TO SOMEONE ELSE, AND YOU GOTTA STOP HIM. THINK OF YOUR FUTURE AND DON’T WORRY ABOUT WHO IS going to BELIEVE YOU ARE NOT, THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO JUDGE YOU. ITS YOUR LIFE AND DON’T BE AFRAID TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF, EVEN IF YOUR FAMILY IS AGAINST YOU. DO WHAT IS RIGHT AND BEST FOR YOU.

TELL SOMEONE RIGHT AWAY!! you can’t hide it anymore!! maybe your scared to?!¿ but hunny you have to do it!!

that doesnt sound right. You aged 7 years since the incident and he only aged 5 or 6?

I agree with the above

You should tell your closest kin, don’t be afraid or frightened.Just tell him/her. By the way I had an incident like that.Worse still it was my brother.So do not hide the fact that he raped you.

THAT IS HORRIBLE! GO REPORT IT NOW! I CAN NOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH! REPORT IT!!!

woah !!! ok you should tell som1 right now thats pretty bad if that happend wow your cousin must be a perv so tell som1 ok even if you have to cry hard make them belive you try everything in your power ok good luck I will try to think of more to help you out