She's out of control

All these parents that dont know how to handle there unruly teenagers I think is just an excuse my youngest daughter tried to go out the other day when I said she was grounded so I locked the door so she couldnt get out took her computer tv phone locked it in my bedroom and just didnt listen to the screaming and swearing if she ever used physical violence towards me I phone the police simple do not be afraid of your children they are what you make them dont give them what they want unless they earn it then they will appreciate what they have.

hey there…I hope this message aint to late…well basically you know why your daughter is like this and I can say that it isnt too late..she can be like this now and maybe for months but as a parent you should still be there for her..because no matter what she’s still your daughter…I can say that ‘cause im a daughter too and no matter what bad things I do [though I never did anything worse than copy assignments, but not allthe time] but seeing my parents never giving up on me helps me to change things and helps me to realize the importance of life… you can talk to her [though maybe youve tried already a lot of times] and continue to explain how much you loved her, and if only, if only you could have brought her up to be the best that she can be..but now that this is what it is..yeah, you can show her who’s the boss by explaining things to her, by talking to her and appreciating all the simple good things she has done…sometimes kids like this ask for attention…and no matter how big your girl is she will always be your baby girl…and I know that she will change, just be there for her..’cause the more you leave things as is..the more nothing will happen…probably talk to her and let her voice out why she is like that…someone UP there will help you and I believe that…I dont know if you believe in HIM but I know HE will…

usually when kids act out like this it is to get attention - even if it means getting negative attention. Make sure you always talk to her in a loving way and be there for her and try to improve your relationship. Take her out sometimes and just talk to her about things. Tell her you are worried about her. In my opinion I wouldn’t listen to someone I didn’t respect or someone whom I felt hated me. You should try building up a relationship with your daughter (you still have time, she’s only 17). Try going to councelling or just try being nice. Maybe she will listen to you once your relationship has more respect and understanding.

I take bac my comment from your other question! you need to put your pimp hand down. omg lol. but im being serious. she is out of control and is gunna end up screwing her life up. you need to like go on maury or something!

I agree with the ones up above me, you need to step in and be the boss like you are…set her down and dont be afraid to discpline her…be the mother you are supposed to be and get back into control of your family

man I don’t know but if I acted like that my mom would kill me I tihnk its time she has a rude awakining NANNY 911 should come tour house lol but forreal tho yooh need to stop her now before its to late

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  She definitely needs counseling. It would probably be best if both of you get involved with family counseling. If she doesn’t get help now she is likely to be on a downhill path for the rest of her life.

to me it sounds like yoor daughter thinks that she should have to do these things to prove that she isnt controlled and can do what she likes she’s trying to say she aint a kid that she has her own thorts and own way of doing things I wouldnt stress to much it doesnt sound as if she will end up in jail she is just acting out I guess yooh could say.

She’s acting out. Wants to impress friends. BEAT HER SS!!! if she tells you she’s going to call the cops on you, tell her to go ahead. when the cop gets there he will see what a horrible gal she’s being to you and he will lecture her. Then you can beat her bootie every time she acts that way! I did it and it worked. Just depends on where you live and how strict they are with “spanking”. thats your child,I don’t care if she seems too old to spank. If she lives under your roof, if you support her then beat her non-respecting ss!

softball lyfe 22 is so right video tape her in her ugly moments… and send it to Nanny911 or supernany!! stop being a push over if you are 1… if she asks or TELLS like I do heres an ex: “Ma I am going to the movies” you say –no– just plain no. very firmly to… if she does bad stuff like cussing or yelling or slamming her bed room door… try takeing her door OFF while she’s not home! it tought me a lesson. try it and I hope you get everthing sorted out

im not an old person so I dont know how wise this will sound, but to me it sounds like she doesn care bout her life and if its in her sight she’s going to do it and sounds like she will do whatever she wants and she dislikes you b/c she knows you are her mother and you are her authority, so she knows you wont like what she is doin, so she disrespect you, I think she doesn care where her life is going and I dont think she care bout her life, I know that isn the best advice, im just young and a teenager myself, but I just thought id say that…hope things have a big turn around

I USED TO DO THAT TO MY MOM BUT SHE WAS NEVER THERE FOR ME UNTIL I WAS 15YRS OLD. ALREADY GROWN UP AND RESPONABLE. BUT SHE SOUNDS LIKE SHE’S DEPRESSED OR THINKS SHE DON’T HAVE TO LISTEN TO YOU. JUST GET IN HER @**. SHE SHOULDN’T DISRESPECT YOUR HOME IS SHE WANTS TO ACT LIKE THAT TELL HER TO MOVE OUT SOONER OR LATER SHE WILL COME BACK BEING A CHANGED GIRL. SHE NEEDS TO LEARN THE HARD WAY. I WISH I HAD PARENTS THAT CARED ABOUT ME. I HAD MY OWN APARTMENT WHEN I WAS 15YRS OLD AND IT WAS HARD AND I WANTED TO MOVE BACK HOME SO BAD. MY AUNT RAISED ME AND SHE WAS REALLY STRICKED ON ME AND THAT WAS A GOOD THING BECAUSE I KNOW HOW TO LIVE LIFE THE RIGHT WAY. I KNOW I WAS IN THE WRONG ABOUT MY MOM BUT AFTER 15YRS I DIDN’T NEED HER. I WORKED 3 JOBS JUST TO KEEP MY HOME ONLY GOT 4HOURS SLEEP EVERY NIGHT. SHE NEEDS MY KIND OF LIFE THEN SHE WILL LEARN TO RESPECT YOU AND YOUR HOME.

I myself am a teenager maybe you should try to sit down and talk to her most parents dont talk they yell or they ALWAYS think they are correct try to be apart of soething with her just the main goal is to TALK

You spoiled her and now are living with the results. She curses, has been arrested, treats you badly and you are given the advice to beat her. Yes, that really works well, especially with a 17 year old. I recommend that you both see a therapist or some other person trained in family therapy. You do need to set rules and guidelines but you need help to guide you so that it receives the results you want. She obviously needs professional help for her anger and control issues. And you could use someone to talk to, to guide you and to support you in your “new” role as parent. Because allowing her to run free and do what she wants was not being a parent.

YES!!! another thing, show her who is the BOSS!!! Make sure she knows she’s not the one in control of the situation.

Has she had any good relationships? that will tell if she is heartbroke and trying to hide it.