Is this a good time to start a family?

Dear snicks02, Since your boyfriend doesn’t want to adopt and he wants to wait till you are out of school…unless you can convince him other wise you will have to settle for not having children. The question is he wants one thing and you want another. He is not willing to compromise with adoption leaving the only option not to have children. Is this enough of a deal breaker? Is this enough to end the relationship? These are questions you need to examine carefully. Unless their can be compromises in a relationship then this becomes a dysfunctional situation. Do you want children enough to move on, or find a partner who does. Or do you back down and settle for never having children? If anyone waited till they could afford children no one…and I mean no one would have children. So financially it is a no brainer…now perhaps it stems from his fear of loosing you in child birth? A real fear, one he may not think he can handle…this is were counselling would be beneficial. Address his fears and find out the real reasons for the delay and find out the real reasons as to why you feel you have to bend only to his wishes. Sue…good luck

Maybe you should adopt. That way, you don’t have to worry about not being able to support your child now. Sorry, but after reading your history, I wouldn’t recommend giving birth at all. I think when your doctor told you not to give birth after 30, he/she didn’t mean for you to do it when you’re 29.5 years old. Should have been earlier, but it’s too late now.

in my opinion u should finish school its hard to do homework when u have someone needing u that much pluse its nice to get that time with your baby when their first born cause ya I was denyed school when I was a teen for not living at home with my parents so I am now finishing my high scholl my sons 2 1/2 so he sleeps threw the night but its hard to get to when your cleaning your house cookingspending time with your baby because if u dont set time out you dont get to see theim to much then after 7:30 if my house is clean and laundry is done then I can start the home work and I wake up at 5am so I can be out the door by 6:30am and get home at 3:45 its bussy but financhially you should b fine a lot of that waight never have kids

Right now he is not open to adoption. He says that he does not want to adopt:(

Thank you:)

You can have childrening into your mid to late 30’s. Chill out and get your life in order.