A really weird mom/daughter relationship...

I dont do anything 4 my parents I dont even tell them I love them or anything and when they tell me that I ignore

I think you need to trust your mom too my relationship with my mom is sooo close.Forget about my boyfriends we talk about her boyfriends and her fears and I comfort her all the time.I feel like I’m the mom but It’s very good that my mom never lies to me

I have no idea how old you are so I dont know if youl have the money, but every now and then when your mum does something nice for you, or if you have a really good time toegether, buy her a thoughtful gift as a thankyou and when its her birthday or christmas you could write how you feel (if not in its entirety maybe just a small somthing like ‘I understand what happened in the past now, thankyou for everything you have given me…’ in a card and say ‘id rather you read this on your own as I dont like to share my feelings’ when you hand it to her so you know shes got the message but you can stil avoid comfromntation.

I dont know how much this helps because its hard to fully understand your situation, but this is the sort of thing I would like to do fir my dad as , like you, I have a tricky relasionship with him

Hope all goes well!

I Dont even say I love You Mum either LOL! I Dont no why - its likee im afraid to say it - I never kiss any of my family - its proper weird LOL!

yeah, jamoge’s right shrugs

I think you need prayer in those areas, that are giving you problems. Things that we go thru as young adults, can affect us for the rest of our lives, unless they receive the proper attention.

Since I approach everything from a spiritual point of view, I believe prayer is the key to all our problems.

God created us, and he knows everything about us, so, it seems very logical to me, to take everything to him in prayer.

YOU NEED TO TURST YOUR MOM

You cant just suddenly feel/show affection for someone you have no relationship with. You and your mom need to put aside for now the past and work on getting to know who each of you are now. Expecting to feel love and affection because you are mother and child is absurd - what gives us that feeling is trust and empathy of the other person, not shared DNA. Take the time to get to know the person your mom is now, let her get to know the person you are now, take your time, don’t rush it, and the affection and love could follow. Remember - relationship first, then love…

I think you know what you need to be doing and your stubborness is just a selfish, childish front that you put on. You’re not the only one to have gone through situations like this and your behaviour is your own choice - you choose to be stubborn, you choose to be petty, you choose to withold your affection.

Nobody can do or say anything to make you change what you believe you have the right to be, but dwelling on the past keeps you in the past. If you want to move forward then shed all your insecurities and grow out of your little girl state and start acting like a part of society.

You create your own path, and nobody forced you to be this way - you chose it.

I apologize for sounding harsh, but right now, you just need a kick in the pants…your life isn’t so bad.

You can’t control how others treat you, but you can control how you react to it…

Buy her flowers, don’t say it’s because you love her or anything because actions speak louder than words and she’ll understand. If she speaks to you about it say you don’t want to talk about it right now and maybe write a little something down to reassure her.