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what should I do...I need advice please

so I broke up with my boyfriend of almost 2 months last week. and I did it because I was dating him secretly. My parents are totally against it and I know them well enough to know they wouldn’t ever change their minds. [traditional middle eastern parents. and my ex is black. they didnt like that. -_-;] anyway, I was dying from guilt. I would cry like everyday and I finally snapped and broke up with him. he was a great boyfriend and everything but I knew we’d have to break up eventually so I didnt want to hurt him more later on so I broke up with him. we’re still friends but I really do like him. I don’t know how to get over him. and today my sibling broke something that my ex gave me when we had gone out… and I cried a lot… and when I told my ex that, he started smiling. what does that mean? why was he smiling? I can’t figure it out. Do I still like him..do I want to be with him? I just want to move on and get rid of this guilt because my parents are everything to me and hiding this from them took a major toll on me. how do I give my ex closure because I can tell he still wants to be with me. I just need some advice on how to handle this situation…

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Ok, I had the same situation. my parents are the traditionally strict hispanic parents and I am not allowed to hang out with anyone after school or on weekends. last year I went out with a guy I love deeply for a full year be4 they noticed and throughout it I shared your sense of guilt. I broke up with him just like you did and I tried to move on, just like you r doing. But I realized that we cant choose who we love, and our parents definately cant. if you really love him then you have to tell him that. secret relationships suck, bt if it hurts being away from him even more, then you should get back together with him if you decide that you cant disobeye your parents, and he truely loves u, then he will wait 4 u

me and my boyfriend got back together this year and we are doing well. I feel guilty for decieving my parents, but I know that he is who I want to be with and with time they will learn to accept that. I hope your parents change their minds and learn to accept him no matter his ethnicity.

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