How do I get my mother to let me go out without strings attached?

Well my dear, first of all you are 22, legally an adult & dont have to answer to her! SInce you are living in her house, as she seems to be paying all the bills she still expects you to do your part in contributing.
The way she see’s it, I work, pay for the bills, pay for the food the least my daughter can do is a list of chores! Not saying that is ok or isnt for the matter just saying the way she see’s it!

You have 2 options…

1. get a job if you dont already have one, save up enough money to last you for a years rent & move the hell out!
2. simply deal with it because as long as you are living under her roof she will control your every move.

Personally If I were you…I would move out. You will gain so much by doing this.

1. privacy
2. respect
3. responsibility
4. most of all dear you will gain control of your life!

It is ludicrous that you are 22 & still have a curfew, not to mention all the other things I cant even bring myself to mention which you have stated above. If she is treating you as a child then you might want to think about why that is!

I would seriously have a normal heart to heart with her on that one with no shouting & no swearing. Seriously ask her what it is that she wants from you & why she feels the need to act this way towards you at 22 years of age!

Good luck & I hope this helps

your 22 and no longer a child, you dont jave to do what she tells you to do!in a stern but sencitive and respectful way tell her that you will stay out later and you do not have to tell her where you are n what time your home! be careful not to hurt her feelings. she, after all, is the one who gave birth to you and is the one who bought you up and gave birth to you!

just out of interest whats your curfew?

good luck! x

You move out of her house? As long as you are under her roof, she gets to make the rules.

Just remember Mother knows best. Why are you so anxious to get out of your Mom’s home, unless you want to do something that she is against. As a Mother I want my daughter to live at home until she is getting married or going off to college. You have to earn to be trustworthy. Every decision/choices you make have consequences. Good or Bad you have to live with it. Please listen to your elders because they know what they are talking about. It is easy to get into trouble so make wise choices. Pray for guidance and directions for your life. You are responisible for your life. I am three times your age, been there done that and I have room to talk.

This advice was actually very helpful. My mother seems to believe that I am a sex fiend. I have been with my boyfriend for 5.5 years and we use protection every time!

I do have a job but I’m only scheduled 9hrs a week but no where else is hiring.

Mothers do not always know best. They tend to have learned from experience, but not always the same experiences as their children.

I want out of her house because she smothers me and overprotects me when I’ve done nothing to warrant her distrust.

9pm is my curfew for “school nights” even though school’s at 12 noon. 10pm for weekends. sometimes.

I am happy my advice helped, and I am really sorry your mother treats you this way, even a child gets to stay up til 10pm today. I think she is very strict with you & the best way to get off your back would be to try looking for ways to make money.

1. baby sitting
2. dog walking
3. perhaps at the nearest mall, they are always looking for girls to help out as waitresses/ in a cafe` or any fast food places. 4. there are all sorts of retail shops, from clothing to scented candles to anything & everything right now, you have got to find a way to stay home less work more & simply avoid her at all costs til you can save enough money to leave her house & gain some backbone! 9 hours a week is not acceptable as a job for you to save as much money as you can. 5. try some salons, ask for some extra jobs like washing hair, or simply sweeping up cut hair…anything is a job & all is extra money look at it that way. I really do wish you well. If you need to talk feel free to funmail me anytime. Take care sweetie.

Oh my god my mum isn’t even that strict on my 13 year old sister! Move out! Get another job and get out of her house! When you are 22, you need freedom!

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