how would I go through with dating him?

okay so there this boy and him name is zack I met him becuase his dad was dating my sister. so when I would go and visit my sister well I would see my sisters boyfriend randy because they lived together. so I eventaully met his son who is my age (zack) and at first I wouldnt talk to him becuase I didnt really liike him . But after a few times seeing him I would like talk to him. and I would go to my sister’s and stay the night like every friday so I would see him but we started talking and stuff so I guess we became friends? but I would lie to him and tell him that I had a boyfriend and that other guys wanted to date me. I was only doing that becuase I wanted to seem “cool” becuase I knew that he kind of liked me. so time went buy and my sister and her boyfriend broke up. my sisters boyfriend randy is now in jail . and zack lives with his mom and my sister jen is in a relationship with some one else. so I didnt see zack for a long time. but I eventually created a a social site and I found him on there and added him! we started talking all the way through like last summer. and then he told me how he really liked me and stuff . and like I didnt really like him like that becuase I know that your not supposed to judge someone by there looks but hes over weight so hes fat I mean that could have changed since I last seen him but that bothers me. I mean hes kind of cute but the whole being over weight thing grosses me out. and then I started being mean to him on the computer and he got mean a lil while after that after I had stopped being mean and said that I was ugly and that he only talked to me becuase he felt bad for me then he blocked me on mysppace and time went by and I made another a social site and sent him a friend request and he excepted it and we started talking again and he said that he was basicly sorry and that he didnt mean what he said so I forgave him I guess he was just having a bad day that day . but now hes like asking me for my number and calling me sexy and then he asked me if I had a boyfriend well I decided to be honest and told him that I do not have a boyfriend . and then he was all like well do you wanna go out and I mean I have never had a boyfriend , so I’ve never kissed anyone. but he thinks I have.. and im not about to just come clean and tell him that I never dated anyone becuase that would just make him get mad at me or something. so I’ve just decided that since it was a while back that I told him I was dating someone that from this point I will be honest. but im kind of desperate I mean it would be nice to have one of thoses dates like 7/31/09 or whatever haha. and it would be cool to finally get my first kiss. but thats wrong to only date someone for that reason . but when he asked me to go out I said ha sure but we’ve been talking on a social site. so I guess were going to plan a time to meet somewhere. I havent seen him in a long time. but I have really missed him & always like wonder what it would be like to kiss him and stuff. so do I like him? I don’t know.- do I want a relationship? yeaaah. -but maybe I do wanna date him im just soo confused but when I think of dating him I always think of the whole him being fat thing. help me please I need some advice! and plus I dont wanna tell him that I dont wanna date him becuase peoplr have told me that before and it hurts!

Answer #1

thanks you guys gave me some good advice. buy some other ideaas would be good too

Answer #2

well you will know when you like someone, you just get that feeling of excitement and want to talk to him/her all the time. So, to me it sounds like you like him but since its your first boyfriend I don’t think it will get that serious. So I say, why not… just date him and see how things go. if it doesn’t work out, then you can break up and know it just wasn’t meant to be. About him being fat, I don’t really know what to say. If you really like him… you will get over it. So… good luck :) I hope I helped

Answer #3

After all that you’ve gone thru getting to know him, why not go out for a causal date. And while you’re doing that, practice being honest about stuff. Wouldn’t you rather he liked you for who you ARE, rather than who you made yourself up to be??

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Answer #4

you obviously kind of like him if you’re posting all of this! (: what’s the worst that could happen from a date? you should just go for it. and yeah, don’t try to make yourself look better with lies next time.

Answer #5

I would just agree to meet up with him on a casual basis- maybe invite him out to something you and a group of friends are planning to do? Arrange a picnic or trip to the cinema or something and ask him along, that way it does not seem like a date. This will give you a chance to see him in a relaxed environment and get to know him face to face again, so hopefully you will work out how you feel from this.

Be honest and just say you do not want to rush into any relationships right now. You can always say you have a lot to focus on at school, so do not feel you would have time to date someone. That way he will not expect too much, and then you can just take your time with him. If you do not like him like that though in the end, then you will need to tell him as, although it hurts, it hurts more hoping someone will date you an likes you back, and then being strung along before finding out the truth.

Just take it slow, arrange a casual meeting and get to know each other. Maybe arrange to play badminton/basketball etc together, maybe with other friends too, once a week or fortnight, as that is also something active he can do to help control his weight? You should not foce him to change his appearance if he is happy, but maybe he does not have much chance to get regular exercise? That could be something you take into consideration when planning activities the two of you can do. If you two do end up a couple then you will have all the time in the world to be together, why rush into it? Take your time and your feelings should begin to be more apparent. Good luck!

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