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How do I combat low self esteem/lack of confidence please?

I have suffered from low self esteem and a lack of confidence ever since I can remember, I have never had any. Get the violins out I know!! But it would be good to hear from someone whos combatted it or is naturally confident please, success stories? Look forward to hearing from you, men and women. Thanks for your time. Shemmy27 X

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Answer #1

Well I guess you could say I’m more on the naurally confident side , and I think the best way to boost your self esteem is wake up in the morning look in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful for who you are inside and out. It’s best just to be yourself and accept yourself for who you are, try to meet new people and understand that everyone had flaws, no one is perfect. Don’t be afraid to try new things, sometimes joining a school sports team could help boost your confidence and help you meet new people. Also remember that is okay to be shy. I remember last year when I was in grade 8 I had to do a speech in front of the whole school, I was so scared and afraid to mess up, but when I got up there and started my speech I realized that just because you asume you are going to mess up does not always mean you will , and don’t forget that practice makes perfect. I’m no longer scared to go on stage and speak to huge groups of people anymore, I think that if you believe you can do something and that you are beautiful then you can step up to the plate and accomplish your goals. honestly confidence comes from believing in yourself and knowing that just because you fail at first does not mean that you are not great, and every fail is a step towards your goal.

Answer #2

thanks for all of your lovely constructive answers, I will definately take them on board. I have bought a self help book called “radical acceptance”, as I have never accepted myself for who I am and therefore it really bothers me what others think of me. this has been ongoing for 10 years now and im finaly deciding to make a stand as its destroying me, until I accept and love myself as a decent human being I wont be unable to unleash the special gifts god has blessed me with. thanx again Shemmy27

Answer #3

like you, I dont have much confidence (in fact, im not pretty, not sexy, have insecurities too) but I just dont give much damn about what others think. so yeah. :| I mean like I think of this mantra: criticize me all you want, this is my life, I’ll live it the way I want and I dont owe you anything so I shouldn’t really listen to you.

I think lack of confidence is brought about more of our intent to be accepted by other people. we cant please everyone. in fact, id rather please myself because no matter what there are going to be haters.

also, I am sure you have talent/special skills. maybe you can start off with that and be proud that you have that.

you are great so dont let others let you think down on yourself.

Answer #4

Wow, nice response. I agree with this type of attitude. For me, I have had to learn to be gentle on myself. Its about mindset. Like, I notice where im being critical of myself, and then loving and accepting my weaknesses.

Answer #5

ok plumeria, thanks,but I cant just accept myself overnite,its gonna take time.but I do be myself yes.

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