How can I tell my mother that she's interfering?

Show her this question and the replies?

I think, maybe you should simply have to talk to her. Serious, but not so serious that it’s like telling her off. Tell her you mean no disrespect, and you understand it is likely difficult to sit back and not do anything but it is your turn. Be polite about it.

“Time to grow up and step up to your responsibilities.”

Um, I have a part time job as a phlebotomist, all the money I get from that goes to the kids, rent and paying fees and everything else for med-school. I’m well on my way to being a cardiologist. I have my own car, I pay for my own insurance, my own food and day care and well just about everything else.
I cook dinner everynight, clean everyday. I don’t go out all the time and spend money on drugs or drinking or anything unless it’s benificial to my family.

Hey come to think of it: I AM irresponsible.

Maybe I should quite the job I went to a year and a half of school for to pay for my other four years of school and just get on warfare and let your moms tax money feed my kids. Such a better plan. Thanks.

Dear twigy, Some of us did it…and so can you. If you are paying rent at home…then you can pay rent to a landlord? What we are suggesting is moving out. But if you do not then you need to be tolerant of your living situation. It sounds like it is your choice to be there. Sue…good luck

Dear Sue;

I know I need to move out. That’s why I stated that I was saving money to do so. It doesnt happen over night. Even if I could just pack up and leave right now, how does that solve this issue? Sounds like running away to me. I love and respect my mother and we now have a pretty good relationship, and I want to keep the lines of communication open and I’m seeking advice on how to do that without hurting her feelings. THAT’S my point and THAT’S my question. How to TALK to her, not how to get AWAY from her.

Dear twigy, This isn’t about your mother it is about you…you live under her roof and if you don’t like it move out. You can get social assistance until you get yourself a job. You made the choice to have children before you had a career and a way to support them. Now live with your consequences. Time to grow up and step up to your responsibilities. Sue…good luck

I think you have a good thing with the whole “I need to grow as a parent.” sort of thing. Thank you.