How can you tell if someone's being abused?

My friend gets into arguments with her mum a lot, and sometimes her mum threatens and/or hits her. Doe this count as abuse? It happens all the time, but sometimes (like, today. main reason I’m asking) it’s really bad. One example is today they got into an argument and my friend’s mum gave her a shovel and told her to ‘dig her grave’. She pointed out a spot and told her to dig. When my friend refused to her mum hit her and my friend ran into the woods for a few hours. What should I do, my friends kinda depressed and thinking about running away, should I tell someone or just keep convincing her to stay put?

Answer #1

Yes thats fu.cking abuse!!!!? Maybe you dont want to get involved, and you don’t feeel that its not your place to decide for her, but sometimes you have to step in. Shes your friend and she needs your help. People that are in an abusive relationships aren’t capable of removing themselves from it.

Answer #2

then what do I do? she doesn’t like it when people interfere with her home life. she’s kinda (ok, not kinda, really) aggressive.

Answer #3

Im not saying to personally get involved, there are people that help kids being abused. Just pick up the phone

Answer #4

it doesn’t matter if she doesn’t like people interfering with her home life, she would thank you in the long run, so you should tell someone about it and get the problem fixed before it goes to far to the point of something really bad happening to her. nobody should have to put up with abuse, talk to her about it, first try to convince her to tell someone but if she doesn’t that when you should step in and do it.

Answer #5

thanks. I can’t talk to her until school starts back up again though. All of her stuff got taken away, all she could do was send me an email before her mum went upstairs.

Answer #6

Who are you hearing the story from? Maybe your friend is exaggerating…you might want to get both sides of the story tbh. But if you’re really concerned tell your parents, call Kids Help Phone, tell a school counselor.

Answer #7

your welcomes I hope it all work out for your friends

Answer #8

theres always two side to a story and she could be exaggerating but you probley should tell an adult or a school counselor to make sure she is ok and maybe you could let her stay at your house for awhile its better than running away to no where.

Answer #9

maybe you should talk to ur friend to see what she wants to do with this situation be4 u go tell some1and if she wants to tell or not tell be there to suport her and help her get thought it and maybe talk to ur parents about it…and maybe you should look up sighs of abuse to see if she has any sighs and good luck with ur friend

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