Why is my dad so against islam and how do I tell him I'm muslim?

I am learning Arabic, I pray, I beleive in Allah and Muhammad and I am loyal to Allah. But no one knows except my best friend. Last night I came SO close to telling my Dad that I am now Muslim, but when I mentioned the word ‘Islam’ he went right off saying I shouldn’t get involved, and that Islam is all circled around death and blood and killing and that it’s all disgusting blah blah blah. I almost started crying right then and there because I felt like it was ME he was talking about. If I told him I was Muslim is that how he’d talk about me? Islam is a religion of peace, love and freedom, not the warped laws of many Middle Eastern countries, but I’m too scared to tell them now. I want to cover my hair with my hijab but I can’t because of what my parents are like. I am really distraught over this and need help. I’m only 13, and btw my parents don’t beleive in ANYTHING although Dad was raised a Catholic. ~Sigh~ I seriously don’t know what to do! BTW im a girl

Answer #1

There are so many, MANY problems with this…let me start off with one story.

You know about the prophet, in the Quran, that had Djinni at his beck and call and could talk to animals, RIGHT?

And you also know that the prophet rode on a winged horse (pegasus) to visit Jerusalem as well as into the sky, to visit personally with Allah, whom he could not see clearly because his radiance was too bright?

Ok. Now that those have been covered…what makes the stories in the Quran, for a 13 year old who didn’t get raised in the tradition, so meaningful, when you can find the same caliber story (that Muslims will claim are lies) in other cultures around the world, eg, the Norse gods, the Greek gods, Zeus, etc? Or the indiginious gods of the Native peoples of the Americans, the Apache, the Lokota, etc?

I’d be incredibly interested to know your thoughts.

Answer #2

I don’t know this is a tough one.

How did you first see intrest int he muslim religion?

I mean it looks like your dad is going to flip when he hears that but I guess the best thing to do is to just you know tell him, and let him know that he has to accept you that you have your own believes. I think that these are the consequences on not having a child raised in a single religion.

But it may also be that you will change your mind, you don’t think that know but im sure that at some point. I think that your dad is a hatter about them because how much they get trashed what they have done to us and all that. But like I daid before it is better just letting him know right know because it’s not right to keep it all inside because it’s also hurtting you.

GOOD LUCK:)

Answer #3

Good job for turning Muslim! Seriously despite of what your parents thinks of the religion, you still went ahead and converted, that is truly the definition of rad. Anyways, (btw im a muslim too), you can tell them by giving a note to them or maybe even emailing them from your best friend’s house and see what their response is. And if they go all crazy on you, Allah will guide you through it. Even if they start to beat you or anything, (not to scare you), God will give you more 7asanaat- good deeds then an original person who converts because you would have to go through more stress and everything. So, like, yeah :)

Answer #4

Don’t worry hun! It’s because of such a wrong way the media portrays Islam. So that it’s normal your dad doesn’t like it. First, try to learn more about Islam, make sure yourself and do everything step by step… Unfortunately, in Arab countries Islam is so hard, hope no one is get angry with me but there is a fact, they use the name of Allah to force women… You know… But it doesn’t have any link to real Islam. As you said, it is all about freedom, peace and love. I’m a muslim girl too… And I don’t live different to any european country because I’m lucky I live in Turkey… (secular country) I can advice you for now, not to wear hijab at first. I myself don’t wear hijab and it doesn’t mean that I’m not muslim. If you are a follower of Allah and believe in his prophet Muhammed, believe me it is enough to be Muslim. (of course, there are details but I’m talking basically) You just need to be sincere with your religion hun, if you wanna talk sth else I’m here ;)

Answer #5

sometimes its best t okeep things a secret and this sounds like one of those things you have the right to beleive in whatever you wish to beleive in no one can take away that right but if your dad is firmly against this (assuming from the way he was raised and all the bad things hes heard about islam) I dont think theres anything that will make him ok with it so perhaps just pray and practice your religion when you have your own private time and wont be interrupted by family? and if they ask what you beleive in perhaps say you dont know still? if you feel threatened by your dad because of what you beleive in, keeping it a secret from him would be best and remember that you dont have to follow everything your religion says if you dont want to simply beleiving in whatever god you choose to beleive in is enough

Answer #6

Congratulations on being Muslim. This happened to me, when I told my father I wanted to be more Jewish(Born a Jew) and start being kosher(halaal) and dress modestly(equivalent to hijab). I won’t lie, it was a hard choice to make, since I grew up not being kosher and being shameful from the many Jew jokes that circulated around schools and in movies, forcing me to hide my true pride.

I told my dad around the time he first started noticing changes in my diet, such as no alcohol(Russian-Uzbek traditions) and no more pork. I told him I wanted to be more Jewish, and he told me if it’s what I wanted. He made fun of me at first, like telling me I dress like I’m going out in the snow(long sleeves, pants), but later stopped because he knew it was important to me.

Don’t feel ashamed to tell him. He might have his opinions about Islam, but don’t let it change who you are.

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