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What to do about inlaws who wont let you live your life?

My boyfriend/fiancee’s mother wont but out our relationship.. He is 30 years old but she always seem to wanna compete with me if she feel he’s showing me to much attention. She’ll clam to have blackouts or need to go to the hospital.him and I do live together but she always puts him in a position to have to choose between the two of us. Should I just let our 13 year relationship go because I’m really tired of this lady. Sometimes I wanna smack the hell outta her. What should I do stay or go?

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Answer #1

If you and your husband love eachother then you must try to work this out. I presume you have talked to him about this, if not then you must. You should’nt have to put up with a mother in law that acts like this. You must also talk to her and tell her what it is doing to your relationship. If she loves her son she must want him to be happy and tell her that he is not happy because it is putting a strain on your relationship. Does she have a partner or is she alone? maybe she is just lonely and needs attention. Reassure her that she is an important part of your life but she has to realise that you’re his wife and your needs come first. Maybe you could put aside one day or night a week when she can come over to dinner and make it a regular thing. Your husband will have to talk to her also and make her understand that he will not put up with what she is doing and he is not going to be put in the position to choose between his wife and his mother. There is enough room in his life for the two of you . She will need to know that if she doesnt stop her behaviour then it is going to push her son and her apart.

Answer #2

I would say stay. you should talk to him about it. and talk to her about it.

OR OR OR

go on jerry springer. and let the fists fly

but seriously you need to have a talk to him about this

or get him and his Monster mother together and talk about it

STAY CALM THO violent never solve nothing

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