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??? Stuck...My son is 8 and I am having trouble

My son is 8, I am a single mother and I just got a report from school that he is talking out of turn (quite frequently), just today he informed me that I would be getting a phone call because he had either pushed a girl or punched her in the arm (not sure which it is yet and it is in question if he was playing a tag game or if it was in line) and then lied to the teacher. I just don’t know what to do any longer. THINGS I HAVE TRIED: I have taken his toys away, no tv, sat and talked about “if you are going to do something you can’t tell me or talk about then you shouldn’t do it”, and “if you make a mistake it is ok but never lie… it only makes it worse”, and topped off always with “ I always love you even when you make a bad choice, but learn from your mistakes. Saying sorry means you will try extra hard not to do it again.” Now I need to go and have a conference with the teacher and I am at a loss. Please help. I really don’t know what else to do. I just love my son so much and I don’t want him to keep acting like he is 8 going on 22.

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Answer #1

Dr. James Lehman’s book “The Total Transformation” is worth a look. There is a money back garuntee and its advertised every 30 minutes where I live. Been advertised for quite a while too so I dont think that its a fad. I have no idea if it works but its worth taking a look into. Good luck.

Answer #2

thats tough my son gavin will soon reach eight I hope he isnt injuring other kids maybe you can have your husband/ex talk to him the dad is always tougher on the kids

Answer #3

You said to him: ‘ I always love you even when you make a bad choice, but learn from your mistakes.’ - to me, that’s troublesome because bad choices in life are not ok - I know what you’re saying, but I’m afraid he might be hearing - I can do anything I want - try weed - smoke - drugs, etc, I’ll just ‘learn from it’ - she said ok - life is choices and it needs to be stressed to him to make GOOD choices - what if he makes that bad ok choice and is hooked for life - I know you mean well - a positive adult roll model would be good and my opinion, getting involved in church/faith, if desired…I wish you the very best !!

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