How do I deal with a drunk Stepdad?

Darling, Trust me on this, there is nothing you can say that would fix the problem, my mother married her self a drunk yankee, and if there is one thing I have learn about, drunks:( is that they think the world owe’s them something, and that they don’t care what they say, do, or how they will hurt your, your mothers or any other family members, The best thing you can do is move out, if your not 18 years old, get your self a job, so you can move out of there, as soon as you turn 18, and if your passed 18 move out, Once you move out let your mother know her husband is a drunk and you wish not to have any thing to do with him, and you love her and wish to keep her in her life, but as far as he goes, you don’t want her to bring him over, call, or even have her talk about him, She may try to pull the (one for all (BS)) by saying “ if you don’t want to see him, I don’t want to see you.” Trust me she will get over it in time, and if she don’t then thats life, you don’t want to keep her around if she picks a drunk over her own child, one day you will be married and have kids of your own, be sure never to pick such bad life mates as OUR mothers did.

Darling, take it from me, My mother married her yankee drunk, and no matter what you say to her or him it will not matter, people that drinks lives in there own lil world, they do not care about what people thinks, or about how act when they are drunk, all they care about is the next drink, It’s sad, but true, the best thing you can do is pray your mother wakes up, and gets a divorce from him… My mother drunk is not at all nice, and he thinks every one owe’s him something, the only reason why he married my mother is because every 5 months to one year, he gets fired from his job, he can’t pay his own bills, because he is a drunk, so he needs to be married to someone that would give him money, I think she should of got a cat or something it would be a lot more che*per and at least the cat would be faithful, what you need to do, is move out, if your not 18 yet, you should find a after school job, and save save save, the day you turn 18 get out of there, if your over 18 move out, and tell your mother you love her so much, but you wish not to have any thing to do with her husband, if she say’s any thing like, “ if you don’t want to see him, then I will not see you” then say ok, if you wish it, trust me she will get over it, and if not then don’t worry about it, once you cut him out of your life you will feel so much more better.

Hey :)

wel when he’s sobaah just sit him down & tell him how you feel yhu mite feel like yhu cant do it if ur close because of the embarasment of letting ur feelings owt but if u tell him he will understand & probs lay off the alcohol…just give it a try

xx katiie xx

Chickengirl — the single most effective positive influence you can have on your Dad is for YOU to start going to ALATEEN meetings. This is fact. It comes from Dr Drew Pinsky who is a national known expert on addiction medicine — and alcoholism is an addiction.

i agree with kaie, you have to talk to him while he’s sober and explain how you feel and how it affects you. Do your best to talk to him. hope it works out

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well, you should sit down and talk to him (when he isnt drunk of course). get him to understand that he’s wasting his life on drinking. my dad is an alcoholic and he was sober for 4 years. then he went back, then he quit, went back, and so on. He went back again and we’re sending him to rehab. we have sat down and talked with him and everything… make him realize that it’s pretty much a decision of family or alcohol (or something haha) talk to your mom and stuff about it too.

sit him down tell him all…that you are bored of him drunk all time and you love him and need him… I think that is the best way …