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Mother living off of child support

My husband pays $500.00 a month in child support to his ex girlfriend. He has joint custody of their son, and we have him half the time. He has never missed a payment and never complained about paying. But the one complaint he does have is that she has not, in almost 3 years, once had any monetary responsibility for this child. She has never had a job, and used the excuse that she was in school full time and would look for a job, but never did. Now thatshe is out of school, she still doesn’t have a job and he still basically pays her bills. At this point in their son’s life, it doesn’t cost $500 a month for her to support him half the time. And with no other income, there’s no doubt that this is the money she uses for herself. She lives with her mom, who pays the home bills, and all that come with that. So, my question is, can she have child support taken away, or can she be in any kind of trouble for not having a job to support him herself?

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Answer #1

in response to maebee.. in az they can subpoena the mother’s bank statement to see if she is abusing her child support or not. my sister in law had this done to her, as well as my best friend. but they got smart and stopped using the card when they’d go somewhere, and they’d take out cash when they got the funds. so to a pont, they can do something about it. I’m not interested or urging for her child support to be taken away. I feel that its very poor mothering and its wrong to rely on your CHILD’S support as your income. she has not tried to find a job, and has been very open about this. not only does she not try to find a job, she tells him she wont find a job because she has his money. I just wanted to know what other people thought about this issue and if he should take it to court. not me, myself, but him. this woman is nasty and we have emails and texts and proof of how disgusting and rude she is, telling him to die, swearing non stop, and the child support issue. she is just a disgusting human being. thanks you guys for your help.

Answer #2

The family code is different in every state. Only a lawyer can tell your husband where he stands. Some lawyers let you have your first consultation for free or a reduced rate so it may not be that expensive to get an expert opinion. Your husband can through a lawyer try to have child support reduced. Of course that may end up hurting his son more than his ex. He can also try to get custody. The court should take the fact that she is neither going to school nor working into consideration for their decision. I don’t know about Arizona but I know the courts in Texas take a dim view of layabouts.

Answer #3

I am just a fourteen year old. and this is exactly the same story with my mom with the school and the no job, and living with her mom, except she has 9 kids and gets child support from many, and lives off that. my dad so far cannot stop paying his child support to her, and they are always going to court. it is kinda hard and puts me in the middle. maybe it is not her fault that she cant find a job. my mom went to be a pharmasict, and I thought she would find a job easily. but magically she hasnt so far. she just hasnt been able to get a job

Answer #4

I doubt if there’s anything you can do about the child support - the child is his issue - if she is abusing recieving Gov’t funds, you might be able to report for ‘no effort’ to get a job / self-support - but the best option is to consult a family Lawyer and ascertain options and where to go from here.

Answer #5

No offense but she is allowed to do what she wants with the child support. There is nothing you can do about it.

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