marriage in question...

thanks enduro. my wife had our daughter when she was 19 - perhaps she felt a little trapped in her situation and didnt know how to deal with it. all I can do is try to help her find who she is a woman.

heres the thing…do I let my pride and dignity interfere with what what the little girl (stepdaughter) deserves?? not to sound egotistical, but she was a single mom when we met and she couldnt give that girl the future she needs to grow up without me or my income…but I do have my dignity that I must uphold. sigh

I met my ex when I was 16 and she was 17. She was 6 weeks pregnet when we got together and we stayed together for 6 years and had a daughter of our own then she slept with someone who was suppose to be my friend. Thet were both drunk but I wouldnt let it go and now she is geting married to him. I still get both girls on the weekends because im the only dad the oldest has ever had. She is 7 and mine is 3 so believe me it aint worth it if you can live with it then let it go because seeing them on the weekends aint nothin like being there everyday.

The question is you need to ask yourself if you can let the past be in the past and if you can trust her in the future, If you can’t then you need to move on. It is tuff, I have done it, but I would rather be right then to be wrong. And to be with someone who you could not trust or let go of what she has done then I would move one. And she should have never cheated in the first place, She is lucky you even stayed. I would say that you deserve better. Good luck with what ever you choose to do. Stay strong.

Here’s what I think you should do. I think you should tell her that you love her and her daughter very much, and you are very happy and satisfied with your marriage. Then tell her that you just want to get something out of your chest, and that you need to know if it’s true. Then tell her someone told you that she had cheated on you a few months ago.

For now, we don’t know if your wife really cheated on you, so this is her chance to set the record straight. If you just let it go, the question will be always gnawing at you until one day you approach your wife in a not very composed way. The best time is to do it now, and to discuss it like adults. That is, no finger pointing and blaming who did what. We just want to know what happened and how we’re going to move on from this.

You should very much acknowledge this situation, and since you’re willing to even not approach your wife about it and even forget about it, I think that you love her enough to forgive her and appreciate her honesty, and work on your marriage to avoid future problems like this.