I dont know what to do anymore

anaxlove: You asked for suggestions on what to do, but when people give you suggestions, you’re shooting them down.

Try looking at the problem differently- bringing up a teenager can be a pretty stressful thing. Sometimes parents let slip with nasty phrases that they don’t really mean. My parents have. They’ve also let me know that they don’t agree with a lot of my choices. What they say can hurt, but you’ve got to look at it this way: What does it matter what they think about you? They may be your parents, but you’re not here to please them. You need to look out for yourself.

As much as you may think there are no other options, there are always other options:

~Talk to a friend, another family member (an aunt, uncle, cousin, grandma), a teacher, a counselor, your doctor… and if one person doesn’t listen, talk to someone else. The more you talk about how you feel, the more you can find little things to do to make yourself feel better.

~Try asking your parents why they feel the way they do, and why they’ve said the things they’ve said. You might find they feel they have no way of expressing their frustrations so they take it out on you- that’s no excuse for them to use, you’re not there to be their emotional whipping-boy, but you can all look to getting some help with your family dynamic, to help eleviate that stress, and find ways to vent.

~Look at staying at a friend or another family member’s place for a while, just for a week or so, so that you have some breathing space.

~Spend a bit more time at school after your classes are finished, and just study. It’s a good way to boost your grades, in a great study environment. Either that, or spend some time at your local library, studying or reading. It’s easy to forget the world when you’re reading a good book.

~If you don’t enjoy being at home, try getting out there and getting a job or doing some volunteer work in your community. You can make some new friends, and even help others.

Things will get better, you need to just give them a chance, and take some positive steps to make yourself feel better- it won’t magically get better without some input from you.

I won’t get tired of you, I am on this site to help, so you can fun mail me or email me. My email is my funadvice username at yahoo.com

I think greekgirl was saying that what your friend’s mother told her was mean…

and yeah my mum’s said something along those lines before (something like she had me because she didnt know this was how I’d turn out…)

but mothers are human, they say things… I know nothing is more important to my mum than me regardless of what she says…

ALL TEENAGERS THINK THAT THERE LIFE IS HELL. GET YOURSELF THROUGH SCHOOL SO YOU CAN GET A GOOD JOB. BECAUSE LATER YOU WILL HAVE REGRETS IF YOU DON’T.

Oh been there, everything I said seemed to annoy my mother at one point (I was smacked a couple of times). If all else fails just try and avoid it, stay in your room if you have to…

As a parent we get so frustrated with our kids that we say whatever comes out sometimes. Havent you ever told your mom or dad that you hate them and wish them dead. ( I know I did) They are just words and yes sometimes it hurts your feelings, its when it passes the words and gets physical that is the problem. So if your dad was mad at you when he said this then take it with a grain of salt. If he was not mad then he said a hurtful thing and you are prob. better off without his company anyway.

Therapy.

Your dad told you he doesn’t care about you?

My dad did too, hell, my whole family did.

Do you have a boyfriend? if so he cares. He should anyways. It’s really tough in the world, people will stab you in the back if they get the chance… you have to get back up on the horse if they do.

trust me, It’s a lot better than feeling depressed, find the happiness in life, and you do know theres things that make you happy. So don’t even go there :)

ty, my friends mother told her she was the worst mistake she ever had =/ I think its aweful to say things like that.

but yeah. thank all you guys :)..

prince_zk189 thats really sweet of you but you get tired of me real fast =/

spartan512, I have a girlfriend. problem is she live six hours away. She does make me happy though. Shes about the only thing that makes me happy other than friends.

about therapy though… dad wont let me.

It will come to an end, in a couple of years highschool and all the b.s. will end, you’ll be able to move away and things do get better… Also sometimes parents say awful things, my friend’s mother told her she was the reason her dad died… Now no one actually believes this… I wouldnt necessarily take it to heart… And if it is true, well sometimes we dont get lucky with the families we’re born into and we have to make our own families… Take pleasure out of what you can and just wait out the bad stuff… Things will get better…

you should just pull through it

whars mean

Thats mean.

I’ve tried that before stephaine. I got yelled at and almost hit for it.

You should talk about it, I should listen. You do your part, I’ll do mine.

Face your problems instead of running from them.

I have to agree with andyburton.