How do I deal with my pathetic attempt of a mother?

So I am 15, turning 16 in 2 months, and I don’t know what to do about my pathetic attempt of a mother. Ever since her and my dad got divorced when I was 5, my life has been a living hell. She has had to worst boyfriends, all who have hit her by the way, and she trys to bring them into my life. I have come to accept that her and my dad are over and trust me I am perfectly ok with that. She has never been there for me. She has always criticised me and talk me down, and I am old enough now and I want to do something about it. A couple years ago I moved out from her house and stayed with a friend for a year, but then she became of age and moved out herself and into her boyfriends house, so I moved in with my moms best friend. I love it here. I always have. I was finally away from my mom until her last current boyfriend threw her out and she had no where else to go and had to move in here. Ever since I have hated my life and had thoughts of taking myself out. She drinks all the time. smokes constintly. yells at me for something I didnt do, or if she is mad and wants to yell. I cant do the things I use to. I hate it. When I say I hate my mother I really hate her. I know I hate her and I have that strong of hate towards her. Not to mention she is a sleezbag and sleeps around. She is a pathetic attempt of a mother. She has three beautiful daughters [2 of which are my sisters] and I am the youngest. I am just affraid that there is nothing to do about it until I turn 18. I would go to childrens services but I dont want to move out of here and lose every good thing that I have in my life. I just want away from her and despritly. All my friends agree with me about everything I have just said, but I want to know what I should do. I still have 2 years 3 months and 7 days [[[yes I am counting]]] till I turn 18 and I get out of here. but honestly I dont think I can wait that long. She is much worse than what I am writing, but I dont think I could write that much. I’m not afriad of her or anything. but I dont think I can take this my whole life. I grew up in bars because she loves to drink. its sad I know everyone there and I know a lot about drinks then I think any 15 year old should. What should I do? Any advice? Anything helps!!!

Answer #1

Have you talked to your mom about this? You may want to really express exactly how you feel and how her actions are affecting you. She’s a mom and if she’s even worth one inkling of a salt she’ll care how her behavior and treatment of you and your sisters is affecting you. If she is still a “b” about it, just hang on. I wouldn’t recommend getting emancipated from her since you won’t be able to necessarily take care of yourself. But, love your sisters and love your mom despite her problems. She may need some serious help…it sounds like it. She’s self-destructive, which is a no good way to be when you are a parent. She sounds like my aunt. Unfortunately, my aunt is still a complete idiot, dates married men that hit her, is an alcoholic and is just an all-around loser. I love her, but I’m lucky to not be her kid. I bet if you’re there for her and you tell her what’s’ up, she may one day come around and realize what a piece of “s” she’s been.

Answer #2

well, in three months and seven days, when you turn 16 you can get emancipated from her, meaning you two get legally divorced. do some research on this to see what it’s all about, it might be the best choice for you now.

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