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How can I tell her shes wrong?

Okay my best friend is 14 and talks to a 20 year old that she met in a chat room. he lives in england, and she lives in canada. They say they “love eachother” and the guy is a total creep. She told me that he’s coming to canada in june and is staying at her house. Im really scared for her. Hes really sketchy and gives off a bad vibe. Plus its illeagle for them to go out. And sexually its considered rape. What should I say to my friend to make her realize how wrong this is?

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Answer #1

I kinda cant say anything about this. my boyfriend is 21 and im 16 and hes from england and im from mass and we met on a chat site .hes def not coming anytime soon because that would be weird for both of us. the guy your friend is talking to she shouldnt met up with him. if she going to I would ovb have somebody go with her maybe more then one person. even before that maybe they should have a web chat to make sure he isnt like a 50 year old or something weird like that. they could talk on the phone cause you can tell a lot about someone with how they sound or how they talk to u. also how long have they been talking? does she know anything about him? has he had sex before? if he did hes most likely going to want it from her especially if hes coming to see her. I think you should suggest some of these things to your friend and ask her to ask him this stuff to and be there for her cause if your not and your being mean about it she just might not tell you anything thats happening between them and you might not be able to help her then sorry if I didnt help

Answer #2

omg look I totally see were your coming from and have no idea how to help but you need to tell her that he only wants her for sex or he is damn ugly

Answer #3

I dont think its illegal for them to go out but it is illegal for them to do anythings sexual or have sex because its considered rape, yes you have to wonder why a 20 year old man wants to be with a 14 year old girl whos only started puberty and at her age, she can easily be manipulated by creeps who compliment her, tell her they love her and want to meet up, ect and then turn out to be a phedophile at her age, having this man at her house is dangerouse I would advise you tell her mum about this and talk to your friend as well, as its likley she’ll get upset because she doesnt undertsand how people are concered for her safety and might do something stupid like leave home to meet him so tell your friend that if she really wants to meet this guy, she HAS to have other people with her, other friends or adults so if he turns out to be a creep, he wont do anything to her with so many people around and if your really worried that shell meet up with him, call the police, as they know all to well what happens to kids who meet people over the net

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