How can I relax during sex, I cant stay wet?

me and my guy started having sex a few weeks ago, the thing is I cant seem to stay wet and after 15 minutes of intercourse I get pretty sore. When hes not around I get turned on just thinking about the way he touches me, and when we cuddle my pussy gets really wet, but when he starts to go down on me, I shut off. it feels amazing I love when he touches me, but I cant orgasm, and the sex is painful because I cant get into it. He’s very patient and talks about how he wants to pleasure me and we’ve been looking online for days, ok ill definitely purchase some ky, but how can I relax? he’ll kiss me head to toe but I find that makes it worse, I shut down when I realize he’s trying to get me going. should I meditate on something in my spare time?

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Answer #1

Slowdown… Light some candles, play a little Prince music (“Slowlove” or “Do Me Baby” should do the trick), and ask him to relax too. Use a back masage as part of your foreply to help relax you. You could try mutual masterbation. It’s erotic and it’ll give him a chance to watch you and learn how you boby responds to touch. Good Luck!

Answer #2

When hes not around I get turned on just thinking about the way he touches me

I have to ask: can you bring yourself to orgasm? If not, then you should try as it could be he’s just not making you excited or you are nervous about something and that’s inhibiting your ability to enjoy being with him.

Make sure you use protection, of course, when you’re together.

If you can learn to bring yourself off, the next step might be trying to do that when he’s there, with you - I know he’ll get excited watching you get off, and he can finish himself while watching.

Then the next step after that would be to resume touching each other….if that doesn’t work, you might want to see a therapist to see if you have any repression or related issues.

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