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How can I get a comfortable bra when my mom won't let me?

Ok, im small(120), short(5’2), & im a 34B in a bra. I only have ONE bra!(like a normal bra) and I have about 11 sports bras. The one normal I have is nice and it has a little padding in, it gives good support & my breast don’t sagg(nasty). My mom always gets mad at me when I wear a padded bra. So I put a sport bra over it, then she doesn’t say anything. She took me bra shopping. The bra she picked out for me didn’t fit, were ugly, looked bad under my clothes(they looked lumpy), and gave NO support. Their one of those old bras that have underwear & no padding. Now she thinks the reason why I want a padded bra is a want to “show” off my breast and look big & sh**t. And she said padded and push-up bra are for girls with no moarls & who want to look “sexual”. I like padded(not heavy padded bras) because it gives me support, it looks nice under my shirts, they don’t digg into my back(i don’t like bras with underwires). Plus I know girls who are like DD’s and wear bra with a little padding. My mom is also just A(atlest she looks like that) So she might know what kind of support I need. Im just tried of waking up everyday and putting on the bra. It’s nasty. Im thinking of going on ebay & asking my dad to buy me some, but im not sure. What should I do?

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Answer #1

Well one, how old are you?

  1. Buying bras from ebay is NOT a good idea at all. There has prob been people that has wore them, and you shouldn’t wear a bra that someone else has wore.

My advice to you, if depending on your age, i’d buy bras anyways. Any money you get save up. You mentioned your mom don’t like “padded bras” and it could just be because for her growing up, thats what she was tought. Just beacuse a girl wears a bra with a little padding in it doesnt mean anything at all. It def about the support, and what makes YOU comphy. So personally, if I was you, i’d save up, and just buy the bras on your own. Just don’t buy them online. Buy them in an actual store. (:

Answer #2

Okay, from my experience, it’s best to just be totally up front with your mom. If you have legitimate reasons for WHY you should be able to get padded bra’s (which you do.. “gives you support, looks nice, doesn’t dig, etc), she’ll probably let you. Or if you don’t want to talk to her face, leave her a well thought out note or something. Or bring it up in a joking way.. Like “GOSH! My boobs need freaking support! I need a padded bra! Hint Hint!”. Yeah, it sounds dumb, but then its not like your getting mad or sneaking around getting it yourself… and she might realize how important this is to you!

Answer #3

i think you should tell your mom exactly how you, why should you be uncomfortable? Sports bras unless wearing them to exercise i find to be more confiding. and i don’t think that a bra you wear has anything to do with your morals. also i am the same size as you and i wear pushup and padded bra’s and they still look small. i would suggest offering to try on a padded or push up bra at the store and put your shirt on over it and show her that there is not a huge difference.

Answer #4

agreed and well said =)

Answer #5

Could you try and meet her half way? For example, you could try to find a bra that isn’t a sports bra, unpadded, and still comfortable. Also, a lot of bras come with inserts you can take out, or put in. Also, you should probably get measured professionally if your bras are that uncomfortable.

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