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Wierd relationship, weve been through a lot but I really need help

ok I recently started dating a girl last year and are relationship was on and off for a while because we were having trust problems, like if I were to tell her a pretty big lie she would think everything I said is a lie too.. but we worked that out and got over it and starting dating again.. but then after a while a new problem came up I wasnt paying enough attention to her and and she thought I didnt really like her anymore, and she had some other guy on the table, But once again we worked it out and continued goin out together after I really did express my feelings to her and we fell for each other again. But then summer hit us and we didnt see each other as much except the occasional movie.

But heres the problem. I went on a vacation for only 3 days and when I came back I got a email sayin “we dont talk enough and this probly is better we didnt date anymore”. My original thought was “ok, we will get over this too, no big deal”. But once I started talking to her about it I found out that she found another guy which I guess “is a better guy” better looking, nicer. And I asked her how can get over me and move on to a new guy in THREE DAYS??!! so im pissed off then about that and now she says “she doesn’t feel the same way about me”. But I did get it out of her before that she still does love me and doesnt know how to break it off witht this other guy. But now she denies all that.. Help please I really know deep down she still loves me. And I really love this person and I wouldnt ever be able to get over her.

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Answer #1

no but im serious she does know how i feel and i tell her constantly im scared it might never work out

Answer #2

Sometimes you just have to realise that you can’t be with someone. Its a fact of life bro, I know its hard when you are stuck in the situation its hard to see outside that bubble. But I think you just have to realise that if she wanted to be with you she would, and she doesn’t want to tell you that to your face, because doesn’t want to hurt your feelings more than they already are. Move on with your life. Life is short don’t continue dwelling over this girl for to long, its not worth your time or effort. Trust me I have been here before, I understand that you get “blind” in these situations. You WONT want to LISTEN to the Truth.

Jason

Answer #3

First off it would be helpful if we had ages here. Its harder to pinpoint where she is at in her life compared to you without ages to go off of. But even so I am afraid your best solution is to move on and keep your mind busy because I think there was to many “breaks” etc for her, and I think she probably doesn’t feel the same way as you even though she said she did. Because if she did then she would have waited for you, and not moved on so quickly. Girls can be like that they sometimes put alot of thought into things and sometimes they already no what they want and just don’t have the “balls” to say it to you. I hope that helps with what i had to go off of. But in all honestly man i’d move on, as hard as it may sound at first… the best remendy for this situation is time.

Jason

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