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Why does my family hate my girlfriend?

Alright, long story shot. Me and my girlfriend have been together for about a year now, and at first my family liked her, then at about 6 months I stayed the night at her house, because I was tired and she didn’t want me to drive home tired (after working all day). Her parents sat us down and told us that we are not allowed to have sex under their roof, I agreed and we don’t. After that I would spend the night a couple days in a row and then she would come back to my house and spend a couple nights with me, my family says she is using me for my money, which I have non I don’t work. I am almost done with college and my family wants me at the house all the time so I can do my homework, I mean I can do my homework at the girlfriends house and I do. My family says that she is turning me against them, and that I am just moving out and leaving them. And when I do spend the night I don’t want to go home the next day because all they do is treat me like crap when I show up, like nice to see you, its been like what a year or so. There is more to the story but thats about it, I just want to know what you think about this.

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Answer #1

I have had the same problem. The only difference is that my Mom and Dad don’t want us to sleep over at each others houses. I’m 22 and almost done with college too and it’s frustrating because I have been with my girlfriend for three years and they still don’t accept her, but the first girl that my little brother brought home everyone was falling over themselves trying to make her feel welcome. The thing that is so frustrating is that until that point I was under the impression that that is just how my family is. Obviously I was wrong. I don’t know. Right now I have given up trying to please them. I’ve taken control back by living my life for me and not thinking if they would agree with it. This might sound callous and selfish, but your life is your life and you can’t let anyone make you feel bad for being who you are.

Answer #2

well its not just my parents its also my sister and her husband, and yes I am fairly young only 20, but yet my family treats me like a child. There was a major thing that went on about a year ago and that was my father passed away ever since my mother tries to treat me I am moving out on her, she says why do you live with them, and she says I lost your father and now I am losing a son. I don’t think its right, I try to stay the night at her house as much as possible. but my sister will give her dirty looks not talk to her and then when my other brother and his girlfriend come back to my house they will treat them like they are family and still not talk to me or my girlfriend. so that’s more of the story and yes I have sat down and talked with them about everything

Answer #3

You are almost done with college. You need to sit them down and talk to them and tell them that you really do like her and are happy with her (assuming you are) and that you have been getting your homework done and such. If you have good grades, you can show them that and tell them that she is not getting in the way of your classes and schoolwork and ask them why they have such a problem with what you are doing.

Answer #4

The problem might be as you sounds like you are still fairly young, and some parents son’t want their kids to grow up so quickly, but it is a part of life, maybe talk to your parents about your girlfriend and tell them the feelings you have for her and you want to be with her and you understand your have your other responsibilites to.

Answer #5

im having a very similaar problem please help

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