Which choice should I make?

so just to give u a quick run down, i dont usually waste my time dating or trying to meet new guys cus im just really not interested in a relationship any time soon but then i met this one guy out of no where that knew a friend of a friend and we started talking every day, hung out a couple of times, had alot of fun, then he went to europe for three months. we kept in touch and for some reason im soo interested in him even tho we’ve never even kissed. like that chemistry is just there every time we talk. so yea hes not my usual type and were complete opposites, but i get excited to talk to him, i think about him, and thats not like me at all. but heres the problem, one of my friends and her boyfriend decided to play matchmaker and introduced me to someone. we’ve gone on a couple dates, had a few hot and heavy make-out sessions but thats it. we get along great but i dont find myself that excited about him. i feel like i like him so much when im with him but when im not he almost never crosses my mind. the other guy gets back from europe in a few days and wants to take me out and is also my date for a wedding at the end of the month. but i dont know what to do cus i feel like its wrong to be seeing both at once cus obviously ill end up letting one of them down right. but i dont want to have to pick yet until i get the chance to get to know them both cus that only makes sense right. like i keep telling myself just go with the flow but it feels like the guy i met through my friend and her boyfriend is really pushing for a relationship soon and we’ve only gone on a couple dates. the guy coming back from europe is more easy going with the situation. im just confused.. this is why i usually avoid men & emotions. any advice on what to do without setting myself up for a problem in the future?

p.s i feel like im only questioning this one guy cus im waiting on the one to come back from europe. what if that doesnt work out and im waiting for something thats not going to be what i want. even tho we’ve both talked and we both feel the same way about eachother. ahh help

Answer #1

I think you should see the guy whose coming back from Europe. I mean it seems like you really like him, and why would you want to miss out on an opportunity to spend time with him. It seems like you have a lot of chemistry, even just as friends, and if you do not want anything to happen because you are afraid of jeoprodizing the relationsihp with the other guy, then just have a fun time wtih him, and as you said, he’s fine with taking it slow. On the otherhand, you have to do what you want to do. You must eventually choose between the two, so use the meeting with him to figure out what you want. In these situations, you must be selfish, and know try to understand what you want. You’ll end up hurting others less, and not leading them on. It seems like the guy whose pushing for a relationshp isnt you kind of guy, or he doesn’t realize that you like to take it slow. Let him know that.

As for your worry about it not being what you expected—that sometimes happens when people leave for a period of time and come back, and there are expectations. Continue feelings of little expectations as you can, and you’ll have a good time no matter what happens between you two, ebcasue clearly you enjoy eachothers company.

Answer #2

i think u should be with the guy who went to europe because seems like u like him alot,that what i think but dont choose someone u dont really like and then end up regreting it in the end.Trust ur heart and be positive.well i hope u make the right decision :)

Answer #3

Don’t get so flustered and caught up in your emotions. Just calm down and go with your heart and trust that you’ll do the right thing

Answer #4

hey i read ur question,who did u choose.did u choose the guy who’s coming from europe?

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