When is it ever good to stay in an affair with a married man?

your friend is right but you know what? you are ruining this married guys life as well he has a wife with kids that he doesnt want to leave yet hes cheating on her and has to live with that guilt and shame if she ever found out, you cant imagine how hurt she would feel you not only wasting your time on soemone who cearly isnt going to be with you but your ruining him and his wifes relationship end it as your friend said, move on and find soemone whos not already in a committed relationship

really hes just wasting your time you can find a man who will support you and be by urside for the rest of your life he just seems to want a fling and isnt ttaking things serious forget about him and move on all he is doing is causing you damage and making you feel bad just break it off he isnt worth it trust me your not just hurting your self by being with him but your also hurting his family his kids and wife pretty much to him your just his “booty call”

I wouldn’t suggest that you stop with no explanation, but you should stop. You should talk to him, tell him that you don’t want to ruin his marriage, and then say that the relationship between you and him has to stop. Saying that you “fell in love” is a childish response to starting a relationship with a married man. A mature person would recognize that he is married and recognize that being married means that he is not available for you. It is an immature, teenage response to say, “Oh but I love him” as though that makes everything acceptable.

Break it off and get on with your own life. He has his relationship. Go find your own.