What if my kids don't remember me?

I’ve responded to other qquestions youve wrote and I was reading others and honestly I think a lot of answers on there are selfish, I know that a mother loves her child with all there heart and it most circumstances they should be with the parents but on the other hand I mean you are you and those kids are going to need support and to be taken care of properly, not saying you dont, but adoption can be a good thing not only for you but your children, adoption isnt because you dont want them its because you love them so much and you want the best for them, a better life for them , not to say all adoptions have fairy tale endings but I mean someone who is financially stable, who has a job abd a career, education, that could be an amazing thing for your children to have. I know what its like to be young and frustrated and wondering if your doing a good job for them, sometime I look back and I think if I had made the choice to adopt my children out I could have done so much more with my life to make my children proud. Im a good mom and do everything for my kids and thank god I can be a stay at home mom because my childrens father can provide for all of us. The comment about just playing & buying shit for them , its stuff they really dont need, thats iresponsible , they should be getting taken care of with both of you in every aspect of there lives. Concider what could be gained and what could be lost in this and really evaluate and talk to your family about this, you need to be supported in any choice you make.

I talked to the dad of the twins and he says that we should rasie the twins but he does nothing but play with them and buy them toys while I do all the work.

well I think that you should have someone in your family raise them so that they will still know you. do not let a complete stranger raise them. they will still remember you. just come and visit them and then tell them when you are older that you are there mom or sometrhing like that. they will probably understand becuse you wanted them to have a goog life.

I think the kids would rather be raised by there mother there true blood biological mother myfriend kait her mom is really screwed up she has like no experiece with kids but kate loves her mom and would rather be with her then being rased by other people just have your familey help and get some advice from real parents you know who could have good ideas to help you with them

Visit them - and they would never hate you for giving them a better shot at life, it’s for their own good, I’m sure they will understand that.

honestly, I would suggest raising them with your family and getting the state on the guy’s cases for child support as well as protection to prevent the idiots from ever getting close to you again. also, if youre in the US, you can file for child support, etc. if you really want to raise them yourself.

btw, the best parents may not be the most knowledgeable or wealthy. In my opinion, a happy, poor family is better than a preppy distant family. let me know how it goes!