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Im so insecure that I refuse to be in a relationship. What should I do?

Im a girl and a senior in Highschool and Im rediculously insecure about everything about myself. Especially my body. I constantly start diets and workouts and never get any results, and then I start to feel weak and pathetic because I cant commit to something.

Recently I’ve noticed I have feelings for one of my guy friends who Ive been friends with for a year, and he makes it pretty clear he has feelings for me. But even if I think about maybe starting something, I stop myself because of how much I dislike myself, and think there isnt any way he or anyone could like me, and even if they did I wouldnt be comfortable in a relationship because Id constantly feel bad about myself & wanting them to find someone better.

I dont know what to do about it. Ive even considered the possibility of being Asexual, considering I in no way would ever be sexually involved with another person and it takes ALOT for me to like a guy.

This guy is the first guy Ive had real feelings for, but at the same time I dont think it would work, and I dont want to ruin our friendship. What should I do?

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Answer #1

There is no such thing as being asexual. You are a human being with hormones and natural instinct to be sexually involved with someone. Maybe not right now, but one day you will. Instead of excluding yourself from great opportunities in your life, you should just go for it. Live your life! Don’t sit on the sidelines and wonder “what if”. You ARE good enough, you ARE worth it, and you need to believe that.

Answer #2

stop doubting yourself,…. everytime you find yourself thinking negative about yourself correct yourself… you have to try to be more confident try to be happy with yourself before you even think about being in a relationship.. try to find things you like about yourself matbe make a list and focus on that like dont even think about the negatives… cause he must like you for a reason like just be yourself who cares what others think thats probably why your insecure

Answer #3

He’s a close friend, right? You talk with him about all kinds of things, right? Tell him about your feelings - both sides: That you’re interested, and you think you’ve noticed that he is too, and all the reasons you’re hesitant. It doesn’t have to be your private, shameful secret. Nearly everyone goes through similar kinds of feelings while growing up. There’s a good chance that’s why he hasn’t expressed his desires to you.

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