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Should I keep calling my Dad if he's drunk?

my dad has a problem with drinking and he goes to aa meetings I dont know if he is getting better or not because he lives about 3 hours away from me and last night I called him and he was drunk should I quit calling him or keep calling him for support?

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Answer #1

Dear hooch, If your father is a practicing alcoholic like you say you aren’t going to get any needed support from him. He is the one who needs the support. If he is in AA and he is still drinking then his sponsor is not doing their job. It’s difficult to give ultimatums especially if they are your parents and they have an addiction. But it may be time to tell your dad that you will not call or associate with him till he can speak to you when he is sober…hmm…that could mean he might not communicate with you for a very long time and you need to be ready for that. It also could mean that he takes you seriously and decides it’s time to get sober. We draw a fine line of being enablers and co-dependents. The best thing to do is talk with counsellor who deals with drug and alcohol abuse. They will give you some insight as to the thinking of an addict and ways you can help yourself deal with it. Sue…good luck

Answer #2

You’ll always only have one Dad - keep in contact/support and in your thoughts and prayers - never give up, he’ll notice and it will help….I wish you both success !

Answer #3

I would call him and tell him: ‘’Dad’’, nomatter whatever happens I will always be here right with you to help you in anyway I can’’ Dont ever give up!

Answer #4

I wouldn’t advise to stop calling him altogether. But when you do call and he is drunk, simply tell him that you prefer to speak to him when he is not drinking, but that you’d love for him to call you back when he’s feeling better. Then wait for him to call back.

A little bit of politeness goes a looooooooong way and speaks volumes to people more than confrontation. Lead by example.

Sorry your dad’s a drunk.

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