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I'm a middle child, Older sister and Younger brother. It seems that my brother gets anything he wants, my parents always are helping my sister. My sister is 22, married and has 2 kids, my brother is 15, I'm 19.
I have been working since I was 15, My sister paid $200 for her first car, my parents paid the rest, her 2nd car she paid $300, my grandparents paid the other $12,700. My parents told me I had to buy my own car, I borrowed the money from them(in the process of paying it off), I borrowed $2,500. My brother was told he is getting a car paid for by my parents.
I'm a freshman at a community college, paying for school out of pocket. I want to move out, my parents aren't happy about that. They want me to switch my major, I'm in Culinary Arts, to bussiness. I don't want to be a business major.
I don't have the money for this semester, they are trying to force me to take a loan from them, they want to cancel my health insurance with them if I dont take the classes. I also had some transmission problems and had to borrow the money. I now currently owe them $4,225.
I work full time, I pay all my own bills, this includes paying back my parents. The ONLY thing I don't pay is my car insurance.
What are the options I have as far as getting financal help moving out??? I make about $10,000 a year. Are there programs that I can get into.
I live in Jacksonville, Fl
Please HELP!!!
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$ 10,000 a year is not enough to support yourself and attend school. I'd suggest that you find a way to stay at home while going to school. I'd also suggest that you look into the student loan program, if you haven't already.
Maybe you could try communicating more, or better, with your parents letting them know your feelings and problems.
I'm not familiar with the functioning of college, but might it be possible for you to switch to a Business Major and Culinary Arts Minor? I have to admit that I think a Business Major would serve you better for the rest of your life yet with a Culinary Arts Minor you would still be able to follow the career you are wanting. You might find that the two come together later in life if you decide to own your own Culinary business.
It is natural to occasionally feel confused or depressed.
The best thing you can do is to talk to a counselor or therapist. Barring that, find someone you can communicate your emotions and thoughts with, sort of like a sounding board. Keeping your thoughts to yourself doesn't help. If you can't find someone around you then consider Fun Mailing someone on Fun Advice whose advice you like. It's relatively private and gives you a good sounding board.
Check out the link below for information on teen depression.
Information on teen depression:
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depressionteenteenagers.htm
If you are having problems or are depressed, below are a couple of sites that may help you:
Worldwide:
Check out the Befrienders link below. They are not only a suicide hotline but also offer help to people who are stressed or are in a state of depression.
http://www.befrienders.org/support/helplines.asp
In the U.S.A., you also have access to:
Girls and Boys Town National Hotline
Call With Any Problem, Any Time
1-800-448-3000
http://www.girlsandboystown.org/hotline/index.asp
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I suggest you talk to the city about your situation. often times they have programs for people going through things like you. also try explaining your situation to the college you attend. remember to balance yourself and your spending habits. do not buy extra things like going out to eat, expensive outfits, etc.
talk to your parents calmly explaining to them that it would be VERY helpful if they would pay for part of your college fees without you having to pay them back. If they mention your debt to them tell them that you know and you are trying your hardest to get the money, but the other fees are pile-ing up and it would be less stressful to have some school paid.
focus on graduating college. then you will get a good paying job.
talk to your sister and brother about the situation? do you get along with them? perhaps they would GIVE (not lend) you money.
DO NOT SWITCH MAJORS. your parents are wrong. you should be doing what YOU want to do. especially since you have to pay for it.
GOOD LUCK!!! :]
My sister and I don't really get along, she keeps borrowing money from my parents but they don't make her pay them back.
I don't know what I did to make them treat me this way. I have attempted suicide before when I had a rough patch in my life, I was 12.
I'm not suicidal now, but I have stomach problems related to stress and this does not help.
