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Hurting inside

my dad I cant get ahold of him I leave message after message and I never get a call back it hurts me that he cant even take a minute out of his life to call his daughter. I dont know what I can do or what I can say to him I was thinking about leaving a message about how I feel but when it beeps my mind and my mouth dont open. all I ever wanted in my life was a releationship with my dad but he is making it impossible what could I do I dont want to hurt him. but he’s hurting me!

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Answer #1

Reality is tough and I truely feel bad for your situation, but as hard as it sounds you have to let it out.

I am currently 41yrs old my dad left when I was 12yrs old. I knew he existed and he also lived with some other woman and another son.

I went through many downfalls in my life where I blamed my dad for many of them, but nobody ever told me to speak out. I actually let him know about 7yrs ago (too many if you do the math). I wrote him a letter, very long one and I gave it to him in his hand. We were celebrating an event, a very special one as a matter a fact. But you know what I wasn’t expecting anything not even an answer nor a hug or worse of all an I’m sorry. I knew that every year of heartache and pain was in that letter and of course I let him know what I went through and how I felt because he left.

It was a release in my part. My heart felt lighter and I have moved on from when I was 12yrs old. Don’t let another year go by. If you cannot talk to him write a letter to him. Pour out your thoughts and feelings and see what happens. The best you and stay positive.

Answer #2

awww…sweetie, if I were you, I’d talk to your mummy about it, and ask why he is acting this way (what happened in the past?)!! if he dosen’t answer your calls and has no response to your messages, than I think you should tell your mum, how much it means to you, to meet your dad, and maybe ask her if you could go over??…maybe bring her along as well??… and once you’ve met him face to face, it’ll be easier for you to confront him, since you are there!! I wish you best of luck, on meeting your dad =)

Answer #3

I think you should really tell him how you feel, so he knows,maybe he is going to open up too and tell you why he’s not answering your phone calls…maybe his hiding something..maybe something happen when you were a child…I dont know I’m just trying to help:)

Answer #4

It’s also possible he’s dealing with some guilt… has he not seen you for a long time?

How often do you see him? Do you get along with your half sister - I mean, like a friend? Its nice that she’s telling him to call…

Answer #5

Aww, that sounds tough… is he estranged from the family? Does he live close by? Why don’t you tell him you want to sit and have coffee with him say, once every couple of weeks where you can both shoot the sh*t?

Answer #6

im sorry…I think that it sucks to have a dad like that but maybe he will change! how many times have you tried maybe you should email him any try to tell him how you feel!

Answer #7

he lives about 45 miutes away but he has another daughter and she is my half sister and I talked to her today and she tells him to call me but he dont I just keep thinking im the mistake that he dosnt want

Answer #8

my dads never been in my life and I never tryer to get him here but if you just let him know that you care and you want him with you he should be there for you I never had a mom or dad there for me when I needed it but after a bit I started talking to my mom a telling her things about what was going on in my life and then we got close just keep trying to get to him I dont think that he meens to do this.

Answer #9

dont worry he will answer just tell him how you fell about his actions

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