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How to get my dad to calm down?

I was on a Skype call (NOT video call) with a friend I met online 2 years ago. My dad walked in and heard my friend talking and demanded to know who I was talking to. I told him my friend’s name and my friend said hi. Then my dad asked if my friend lived in town or if I met him online. So I told him online. Now, my dad’s all mad at me. He’s telling me I shouldn’t talk to people I know online and stuff like that. I’m almost 18 and I know how to handle myself, I’m not stupid. How do I get my dad to realize that? I completely trust this friend. I have plenty of reasons to. But my dad doesn’t trust anyone. Not even people he meets in real life.

I wasn’t talking to my friend over the phone, it was over the internet, and my friend couldn’t SEE me. I don’t think this should be as big of a deal as my dad is making it out to be. I’ll be 18 in July, I think I’m old enough to make my own choices. Any suggestions?

Also, when I was 12 I had a friend I met online that I talked to EVERYDAY on the computer. He didn’t have a problem with that. So why all of a sudden does he now? I didn’t meet this friend in a chat room. I don’t go into chat rooms. And I have MANY reasons to believe that he is who he says he is. But my dad doesn’t trust my judgment.

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Answer #1

Definitely sit down with him and talk about it. You could even give your dad the chance to talk to your friend if your dad still doesn’t approve. You need to ask him why he is mad about this, and why he wasn’t mad when you had the other online friend. you need to also ask him why he doesn’t trust this friend. Let him see (without yelling or argument) that this friend is a nice person. Tell your dad what you like about the friend, and some stuff about the friend. Just so he feels as though he ‘knows’ the friend.

Answer #2

I think you should sit down and discuss this matter with him and ask him whats wrong with talking with people over internet and why does he hate it…Its better to discuss things than assume stuff about each other and please do not ignore your dads anger because it keeps building up if you ignore it. Once you know the reasons for him to be paranoid you will find your way around :)

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